confused

[inneedofhelp82]

I have been told by my therapist that i have severe personality issues, is that the same as a personality disorder?
I filled in a questionaire because therapy hasn't been working and my therapist is frustrated with me what he told me i had fits with bpd, i have read up on it and it describes me but he never said that. I do have mood swings, depression, impulsiveness, suicidal thoughts and feelings and attempts, i don't have friends, i get angry for no reason very little sets me off, i am confused and restless all the time, then depressed then ok then suicidal maybe all in one day. I never feel normal, i feel i don't fit anywhere with anyone. My biggest issue is rejection which is why i don't have friends, i feel my therapist is rejecting me now as well as he wants me to see someone else, i really can't leave him. One day i really connect and get on with him but if he upsets me then i dislike him i withdraw and he gets more frustrated but i don't want to be hurt by him. I have two people in my life who i can talk to and they are professionals so it doesn't say alot about me. I am sorry i went on so much i just wondered if you could help, are personality issues the same as a personality disorder, maybe he just doesn't want to tell m but i need to know. Thanks

[Peter Forster]

It sounds like a workable solution to the problem. I am glad you followed up with your therapist.

[inneedofhelp82]

Thankyou for replying, i met with my therapist today and i asked him was personality issues the same as having a personality disorder he said yeah it was but he didn't want to label me because that wouldn't help me, i asked him which personality disorder but he couldn't really answer he just said that all the trauma i suffered as a child affected my personality which makes my life so difficult now. I can see what he means about the labeling bit, i also asked my psychiatrist about it and he said the same thing that my therapist didn't want to label me and that they would help me so not to worry. The psychiatrist thought i should stay with my therapist or at least have some sort of contact with him when i am changing over to psychotherapy as he has always been there for me and we have a good relationship. Thanks again, i still don't think he knows what personality disorder i have or he just isn't telling me.

[Peter Forster]

It sounds as though your therapist felt anxious about talking with you about the diagnosis. This is unfortunate since you are left in a state of uncertainty. Of course, I can't diagnose over the internet, but that would be my assessment of the situation. This type of vagueness about diagnosis is not that uncommon in the mental health field. I would suggest you go back with your research and say that the diagnosis makes sense to you and does he think that you have it.