convincing emotion

[Richter_Belmont]

i would like to know your option doctor about my case...

A good solution that i had decided for my problem and doing it sometimes it upset my feelings/emotions.

i know if that one happened if  in the process of doing it, I'm really  really feel bad inside. its like my feelings or my emotion didn't agree to the solution that i had made. most of the time this is the cause of my depression.

now what im gonna do is im going to talk to my self.. and i will provide some explanation and trying to convince my self that this solution is the best for me and there is nothing to get upset about.

its like im making my self a doctor and at the same time a patient..... when it comes in this situation..

Sir my question is, is this normal?. or is it fine doing it?. like talking to myself when it comes to this one?.

i thank you doctor in advance for your help

[Jaquta]

I think it can be important to listen to both our head and our heart.

For me I feel that something feeling right is important.  For example, I stayed in therapy for a very long time when I was feeling that neither the therapy nor the therapist were helping.  I had myself believe that others were right and that my feelings didn't matter.  They did.

There are also times when our emotions can get in the way and prevent us from achieving our goals.  For example, say that we are overweight and need to lose weight.  Feeling like we need that extra serving or biscuit or potato chip or whatever and giving in can sometimes set our progress back.  Sometimes waiting and then rewarding ourselves can be a good idea.

My doctor has encouraged me to step outside of myself and try to view the situation as someone else would.  Say a friend or a doctor, etc.  This can sometimes be quite helpful in problem solving a situation.

Did you want to share a little more about the situation you are talking about?  Sometimes if you talk about more specific details people are better able to help.

I use to talk very generally about some things that were concerning me, mainly because I felt embarrassed or ashamed, but I don't think people ever really understood and I don't think helped my recovery very much.
I think maybe what I wanted were the skills or the formulas so that I could solve my own problems.  If you give people all the information it can be helpful.

I would say follow your heart.  More often than not this allows you to stay true to yourself.

[Richter_Belmont]

sorry doctor for second post.

i know if I convince my emotion successfully if i feel good about it.