My daughter will not wear panties, shorts or pants.

[GoingCrazyKC]

My 3 1/2 year old daughter will not wear panties, pants or shorts.  When she sits in her car seat she has to be naked.  I have tried EVERYTHING you can think of.  She screams, kicks, gets out of car seat, and this would go on for hours if aloud.  She says that they hurt her but.  She had a constipation issue when she was two, she would hold it in until it hurts really bad, I had to give her laxatives for over 6 months and put her on toliet screaming and crying for months before she realized it didnt hurt to go poop.  I dont know if this clothes issue is coming from that or not.  She potty trained herself because it started with diapers, she just decided she didnt want to wear them anymore.  She would scream if I tried to put them on at night and she would have nothing to do with pull ups.  Then she started with shorts and pants around the age of two.  She will not wear them, period.  Now it is to underwear, she screams when I put them on.  We got through 10 pair before we get out the door and she takes them off to sit in car seat.  I am so very stressed out over this.  I do not know what to do, I have tried, ignoring, spanking, brives, threats to take away activities.  She does not care.  In swim class (we go through about five bathing suits every time too) she pulls at the bottoms of them, dance class she screams over wearing the tights and constantly pulls at her leatard.  The other parents all think its funny, "oh she dont like having a wedgie" or "oh its a phase she will get over it"  I just want to cry.  If anyone knew what I have to go through to get her dressed to leave the house and then re-dressed to get out of the car.  Its horrible.  I asked the doctor and the first thing the doctor says "is there any way should could have been abused"  There is not, I stay home with her, she never stays at anyones house other than my Aunt and my Grandmother.  The doctor even checked.  Recommened I take her to a counselor.  I have meet with a counselor and my daughter has met with her once.  She wants to see her every other week.  She wants to do play therapy with her.  I am not convinced this will help.  Cant she take the car seat into her office and go from there.  I really do not know what to do.  My daughter will be starting school next year and she will not be able to go if this continues.  I am afraid to handle this the wrong way and make it worse.  Any advice would be helpful.

[ktf]

Hi i agree with run4you, you might as well give play therapy a go and i am sure if that makes no difference you will be referred to someone else if you need it.
My son did exactly the same until he went to school and i calmly explained every day how important it was to keep his clothes on and he could take them off as soon as we were home,this did work at school but he would remove them as soon as getting in car, i also realised the car seat was making him sweat and had to replace it with one that did not have polystyrine {sp) under the cover-i didnt know they did until then!
He took all his clothes off at every opportunity- mostly to the horror of others-luckily i am quite laid back and decided if he was more comfortable then so be it so i used to let him wonder naked as much as possible,and if nec put him in baggy soft clothes which seemed to help, one thing i did realise is often his problem was with the labels so i cut them out (not leaving even the tiniest bit) and then he did start to leave his clothes on a bit more, he is 12 now and still complains about labels if i forget to remove them and will only wear loose clothes but never naked and as above i believe he has sensory processing disorder but he has not been diagnosed as yet as we have managed to get round most issues but i would certainly recommend you look into that esp if she is fussy about food, taste and smells?
I would suggest you try not to make a big deal of it, take all labels out and if you can, buy seamless under wear also wash everything with non bio and use a non allergenic fabric conditioner as if she is sensitive she will feel everything as tight and scratchy all worth a try if you can then maybe you could make a deal with her that she can be free to be under wear free at home?
Hope this helps...good luck i hope its just a faze.

[run4you]

The play therapy will likely be fun for your daughter, and it might help (you never know, maybe it's anxiety related or something?).

Also, you might want to check out info on sensory processing disorder.
http://www.spdfoundation.net/about-sensory-processing-disorder.html