My boyfriend's OCD, Prozac,etc.

[nycgirl915]

My boyfriend has been taking Prozac for about a couple months maybe. I wouldn't say it has decreased his sex drive significantly, but it does affect his ability to orgasm. We had sex three times this weekend and he only finished once. He takes Prozac for OCD.
He doesn't know that I know, but a big part of his OCD is "gay OCD." Which I've talked to doctors about and they said that people with OCD who are paranoid with thoughts about being gay are not. They usually have these thoughts because they are worried and don't want to give up being with people of the opposite sex.

I do not think my boyfriend is gay. He still tells me how much he wants me and wants to have sex with me. He can't keep his hands off me when we're together.
But if he is, I will support him completely. I love him.
I visited him this weekend and we had an amazing time together.

I really want to talk to him about his medication. I don't want to seem pushy. All I've asked him so far are vague questions "Are you ok?" or "Is everything ok?" He always says yes. I know the medication helps him and his manic and racing thoughts have stopped.
I just don't know what to say.
I want to bring up how I'm scared the medicine is going to affect our sex life more. I feel like the reason he can't finish anymore is because of me. Even though he says it's the medicine.
I cry and I worry about this. I want to stop. I just want to hear from him that he doesn't think he's gay because of me. But he doesn't know that I know he's had these thoughts.
I love him so much. He tells me he wants to marry me and we talk about kids and our life together.
It's eating away at me inside and I hate holding these thoughts in.
I'm also more paranoid because one of my ex's just came out of the closet.
I'm going to a counselor as soon as I can and talk to them. I can't talk about this with anyone.
If anyone has any words of advice or encouragement, it would be greatly appreciated.

fyi - I accidentally came across something and that is how I found out what his OCD was mainly about and his racing thoughts. He's told me about his depression and OCD and medication.

[molyba]

Darling,
     I take the same thing your boyfriend does.  It might be different for me because I'm female, but I have the same affects that he does.  First of all, if he is gay, it is not because of you!  Secondly, he's got to figure that out for himself, you can't do it for him.  Thirdly, be patient.  Do not approach him about it.  When he is ready to bare his greatest fears to you, he will.  And I would suggest that you all not get married till he does so.  You have to be willing to bare your soul to him too.  I beg you please do not rush into marriage.  Yes it can be wonderful,  but it gets harder and harder in today's world to survive marriage.  Please try to use wisdom while making your choices.  Sincerely,      Molyba

[Karl1000]

Your boyfriends Gay obsession is a very common theme. Most people with the Pure O type of OCD which is what he has can obsess about anything but the most popular themes are fear of being gay, fear that they might become a murderer or harm someone they love, and  the fear of going insane. He is the farthest thing from becoming gay.He is accualy is terrified of the idea which gives him anxiety. This anxiety is causing him to search for answers to these thoughts and to try to prove to himself that he is not gay by fighting the thoughts. Its too bad but this wont work. He can be cured from this with hard work doing CBT therapy with exposures. Here is the Drs web site who cured me of this disorder. The drugs are fine but without learning the skills to defeat it on his own it will always be a problem for him. www.ocdonline.com read some of his articles on the site on how this is treated.