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Worried i cheated and dont remember! Pregnant
After my dating scan i started doubting that my husband is my babys father even thought i cant remember cheating. And i know i would remember something like that even drunk. Our baby meausured from the 27th april and i counted 2 week after that which would have been when we conceived which was our wedding day. I know we never had sex that night as we were pretty drunk. Now i've got it in my head that i went off and had sex with someone and cant remember because i was so drunk. I know if i had done something as bad as cheating i would remember and i would be devastated. I also know that everyone doesnt ovulate exactly 2 weeks later. We had sex the day after and a few days after that so we probably conceived then but i cant get it out of my head that i must have cheated. It's making me feel so guilty. I love my husband so much and dont want to lose him. I need these thoughts to stop!!
Ok, well, I have major thoughts about OCD and cheating, like today.., I went to the gas station with my friend and there was some creepy looking guy that was standing behind us and I was looking at some cellphone car chargers and then walked behind my best friend and I think it was past that creepy looking guy...... And I get OCD thoughts about cheating, like let's say like I start to think that like wat if I maybe kissed that creepy looking guy that was standing behind us..?? And the worst part is, is that it gets harder for me to remember wat actually happend too tho... I wanna ask my friend if I did anything, but ik if I do that it's only going to make the OCD and the OCD thoughts worse too.... So I really don't know what to do anymore.... And yes, I do have a boyfriend too tho..........................
I'm glad I could help :) It's important to get someone who specializes in OCD because they really understand it better then any other type of therapist. Just talking to he/she will reduce some of your stress. From there you'll know the steps to take.
Thank you. You have made me realise that it is jst anxiety and ocd talking. But i will get a therapist to talk to
You have to beat your OCD down. It was your wedding night! And given the number of wedding's I've been to, it's IMPOSSIBLE for the bride to disappear for 5 minutes.
Here is what you need to do - take a deep breath. Remember you're pregnant & stress is no good for the baby. Find a therapist & talk to them. I have had OCD for years. This is not a disease that just goes away. It doesn't & it gets worse meaning the anxiety & fear gets worse where it becomes the ruling force in your life. Logic & rationale means nothing, it gets pushed into the background. All you concentrate on is the fear & panic, its not good nor healthy. You're newly married with a baby on the way. You want to be able to concentrate on them & have wonderful memories of them, not the fear & panic. I can tell you from first hand experience that the memories you want are of THEM & not of the fear, panic & anxiety.
Here is what you need to do - take a deep breath. Remember you're pregnant & stress is no good for the baby. Find a therapist & talk to them. I have had OCD for years. This is not a disease that just goes away. It doesn't & it gets worse meaning the anxiety & fear gets worse where it becomes the ruling force in your life. Logic & rationale means nothing, it gets pushed into the background. All you concentrate on is the fear & panic, its not good nor healthy. You're newly married with a baby on the way. You want to be able to concentrate on them & have wonderful memories of them, not the fear & panic. I can tell you from first hand experience that the memories you want are of THEM & not of the fear, panic & anxiety.
I am panicking as my husbands friend tried it on with me last year. I told my husband about it as i couldnt beleive he would to that to his friend. Now i'm thinking when i was drunk he tried it on again and i went with it. Even though i cant remember which is making it worse. It sounds silly as it was our wedding night and i keep telling myself if i was gone a long time someone would have noticed but my ocd keeps telling me no you had sex with him. I just cant get my head around the fact that these thoughts only started after my dating scan
OCD always blocks rational thought.
Any medical doctor would tell you that moment of conception is impossible to calculate.
You love your husband so much, Do you have a boyfriend? my guess would be no. Do you have a lover? my guess would be no. So what are the odds of you randomly picking a guy up off the street & just doing him?? not very likely.
The OCD is what is making you have these thoughts, nothing else. My advice would be to see a therapist. Now that you're pregnant & your hormones are thrown off balance it would be a great idea. Also, the therapist will know if you need to be on anything as well. This will all help you.
Any medical doctor would tell you that moment of conception is impossible to calculate.
You love your husband so much, Do you have a boyfriend? my guess would be no. Do you have a lover? my guess would be no. So what are the odds of you randomly picking a guy up off the street & just doing him?? not very likely.
The OCD is what is making you have these thoughts, nothing else. My advice would be to see a therapist. Now that you're pregnant & your hormones are thrown off balance it would be a great idea. Also, the therapist will know if you need to be on anything as well. This will all help you.
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