i would like to know if trust issues could lead to obsession

[britt23456]

in the beginning of our relationship before it got to this point (Serious) he went to a game night we were still together but he had sex with a girl at the game night a month or so after he told me i didnt get upset then was jus a bit disappointed, then one day while speaking to him he told me he sent a nude to a fren i was angry because this is a relationship not a fling and before we got serious he jus stop talking to me two times n disappear
then he recently went to a strip club n touched a stripper n told me im always in the past n i went into his email n found out he was watching gay porn n joined a gay website n his excuse i was out with my cousin n he instigated it n wen i went into the room i didnt get hard so i wanted to know if i was gay so i joined the website to find out from somebody how they found out

[benny3399]

Im very confused I mean being gay isnt just getting hard. It is a romantic feeling and emotional one where you could feel you could go on dates spend time with and lie down with someone. Sex is not everything. But also like thats a dumb reason to go on a gay porn website. I have HOCD and i have visited a gay porn website but at first i was really anxious and it caused me to get an erection and i was really scared but the next time i went on an relaxed i found it gross and i was very soft so like anxiety triggers a lot of sexual stimulations. But people dont just get erections from walking into a strip club they get it from the sexual stuff. And porn is not a good indication of sexual orientation at all. It is fake... its not real. Erotic behavior will usually get anyone turned on at least a little. It is sexual, your body is confused by watching it and thinks you are preparing to have sex so if you get an unwanted boner it is nothing. But if you want it and like the thought of spending your life with someone and find the whole sex part beautiful instead of gross unappealing and causing anxiety than that is an indication. Gay people never have to check. They know from a young age like we know we are straight at a young age. It is just natural. You are born a certain way and if you enjoy your heterosexual life you are straight no matter what. Even if your mind is playing games with you. You usally dont get anxiety and fear things you like right. You never fear being with the opposite sex cuz that is what u like and is what natural to u. If you are fearing something your body is tryuing to tell you no you do not want it.

[benny3399]

Some Guys get scared because they r homophobic and that has always been a big fear. Just because u might think a guy can be good looking and find something erotic arousing does not make u gay. If you cannot see yourself going up to the altar and going on dates and having a romantic relationship it is impossible to be gay.