I am a 20 year old female who has always struggled with being comfortable within herself. I have had serious anxiety, panic attacks, anorexia and a lot of mental battles. I would always feel guilty after eating, exercise after meals to burn whatever I ate off, and so much more. ( I am explaining my past battles)
I remember always always wanting to hang out with the boys when I was younger, but I always had crushes on them. My first crush started in kindergarten and I developed an even stronger crush in 1st grade to a boy. Growing up I developed a mad love for a particular boy in a boy band and would even cry over him listening to his music. I had crushes on boys all through out middle school and high school and lost my virginity to a very masculine boy a couple years older than me at age 16.
As a child, I would get strange thoughts in my head and play around with them and convince myself I had a certain problem, then fight myself and say no, I didn't then yes, I did.
I had always been very curious about sex and as a very young girl I ventured out into the porn world and was afraid of penises so I watched lesbian porn and got aroused with the idea of oral sex….however, I was aroused and with my MALE partner at 16 always wanted HIM to perform oral sex on me. I never thought of doing it to a female, just desperately wanted to share that with the particular male I was sexually active with. Because he was so against it, I would watch both straight and lesbian porn and get turned on by the idea.
That relationship ended and I became sexually active with a guy I did not love, but who willingly performed oral sex on me which I absolutely loved. He was a very gentle lover and I appreciated the sensitivity. After that ended, I became involved with my current boyfriend who I love and am in love with.
during the summer, my current boyfriend and I broke up, and I hated life. I was depressed and and I tried to see another male. The emotional attachment wasn't there and I was very turned off. We had sex, I didn't want it, and suddenly I started telling myself I was a lesbian.
It would stress me out severely and I would wince at the thought and really feel weird about it. I developed serious headaches and could not sleep and i would repeat it to myself so often that I believed that this was a sign that I was indeed lesbian. My ex boyfriend who is now my current boyfriend called me, and my heart rate soared and I felt so nervous.
Long story short my current boyfriend who is the one that called after we weren't together for the three months during the summer drives me insane. when we fight I am afraid to lose him, when he shows me how in love he is with me I melt. Our sex life is phenomenal when I don't worry about me being a you know what. I actually LOVE the way he feels in bed and I find him to be sexy.
My question is, does my situation sound like HOCD? I view women as beautiful and sexy and sexual and I most of the time want to BE that way not sleep with them. I get turned on by porn and female bodies based on what is being done to them because I want the same for myself. I have always been crushing on boys and always infatuated with girls because I want to emanate them.
I have told my dad and sister that I worry about this… they both have told me that it sounds pretty silly given the fact that they have watched my behavior and interest in men for all my life.
Am I okay? Please, anything to help me... I just want the fear and headaches to stop.