I am a 22 year old male and have always thought that I was a heterosexual male. There was only one time that I had a "gay experience" when i was maybe 8 years old that my friend and I pretended eachother were a girl and kind of groped eachother, fully clothed however not much contact.I remember feeling tingling downstairs but when I looked I was not hard but the opposite. I was to young to understand, I was just confused. I was to young to really think of that as being of being a gay thing to do. I never thought anything of it till much later. I however always felt as a heterosexual male, I remember the first time that I "lost" control and had an orgasm by accident was when I ordered a lesbian video on payperview and uncontrollably let go. It was then that i discovered porn (straight porn) and from a very young age masturbated frequently. First it was just simple porn, then hardcore porn as i progressed. I never once can remember having a crush on any guys when I was a kid, only on girls. I wasnt very popular, until I got into middleschool and didnt have my first gf till 8th grade and when i hit puberty i became a little better looking. I can only remember good experience with girls(except for one). I had a girlfriend for a year my sophmore year who I thought i was inlove with, but only naive. Ive always had trouble with girls though, because I have always been akward, sort of goofy and insecure. I never had once thought though that I was different from other guys other then the fact that I sucked at sports and didn't care to much about them but thats how my whole family is. The first time I started worrying about being gay was when I was at the beach with a friend and I thought one guy was attractive... I dont think It was in a sexual way but It really confused me and made me anxious. I then started obsessing over the fact that I might be gay and my previous experience that i had stated when I was a kid haunted me continually. It made no sense to me, I had a porn addiction to hetersexual porn at this point so it was confusing. I have always been turned on by girls. It went away and came back and went away and came back. I then found another girlfriend who I crushed hard on and it wasnt long until she broke my heart making me feeling like I was in hell. I went into a bout of depression and started using hard drugs. I questioned myself again. I thought was it because I might be gay and she can just tell.. but it turned out just that she got back with her exboyfriend. I went through turmoil for the next year trying to get over her and always worrying that my bad luck with girls wasnt because of my anxiety, or insecurities but because I was actually gay. It still didnt make sense. I had sex or flings with girls for the next year and I was always turned on. Sometimes I felt guilty afterwards... but I dont think that is uncommon but somtimes would cause spikes of anxiety. I would wonder if maybe it was because I was just gay and thats why sometimes I felt guilty afterwards. Anyways I went off to college and started my freshman year and met a girl who I really cared for.. but was so emotionally devoid and still am because of my ex girlfriend. I never let myself get too attached to her and college is college and we broke it off, it wasnt until after that I realized what I had lost. I am just so emotionally devoid now that I avoid letting myself get attached to woman. I dont want to get hurt as bad as I did for some reason before. This however caused me to wonder if maybe it wasnt that I was emotionally devoid but that I might be gay. I always wonder If I might be gay. I constantly check if I feel attracted towards guys and Its like I cant really tell. My anxiety just gets so strong I just get a lump in my stomach. I read a bunch of coming out stories and their are none that I can compare with. I can't picture myself being a homosexual or being with another guy. Ever since I was young Ive wanted to marry a girl and have children. It's killing me. This constant turmoil I feel. I wish I could go back to when I was 15 when I didn't feel this way and I still had "feelings". All I feel like now is a perverted, porn addicted, empty person with constant anxiety about if I am gay, and my social phobias I have and all the insecurities I have picked up throughout my life. I feel like I can't get close to anyone and sometimes I am scared to death. Sometimes I wish I could just be drunk or do the drugs i was doing before because my anxiety always goes away on them. Please give me some advice.