Excessive Guilt

[Lana420]

OK, so I know this is absolutely insane, but here goes.
I am in a very happy relationship. My boyfriend and I have one daughter and another baby on the way.

I found that I have excessive guilt over something I have never done. I have never cheated on him, but some times I feel like I have and then I feel bad about it. I feel like I cheated and then just managed to completely block the thought out of my head, but I know that didn't happen. How the hell do I deal with this?

[Lana420]

Thanks to both of you! I actually ended up asking my boyfriend for forgiveness, saying I know I've done nothing wrong, but I can't help feeling like I have. He forgave me for anything and everything and we started fresh.
Not that we needed to because I have always been faithful, but it helped erase the nagging doubt!

[Everlastingocd]

Hi,

The thing with OCD is that it will totally play tricks with you like this. The important thing to remember is that you know the truth. There is nothing I can say to get rid of this feeling of guilt, because its just what you mind wants to obsess about right now. However like I said, you know the truth and that should be of some comfort to you.

[JGF25]

Hi there.  So there is something called "cheating OCD" where the predominant thought is around whether you or someone you know cheated.  Deep down inside I can tell that you know this didn't happen and are at war with your own brain.  

The thing about OCD is the more you fight the thought the longer it stays around.  What you have to do is surrender to the thought.  Or what I call it "The Whatever attitude."  So when this thought comes up, you say "whatever" and then busy yourself with something else.  Don't let it go on and on.  Stop it the moment it starts.  If it comes right back...NOPE, NOT GOING THERE, ENGOUGH, MOVE ON" as a self-coaching statement.

Ideally you should see a psychologist so you can learn cognitive behavioral therapy.  OCD comes, at least for me, when I am more stressed than usual.  Perhaps there are things going on that are stressing you out right now and this is why your OCD is rearing its ugly head.  

Here is an article that I think will be helpful to you.

http://harmocd.com/?page_id=374