I know, I was depressed a lot, and I don't have my mother around me. Your daugher is very lucky with you.
I think, you need to tell her your feelings too, and I think, this is the time when a family have to come closer and more intimet too. Brothers need to listen, invalved, need to be with your daughter, take care her too.
I agree with Tybear in that I hated people feeling sorry for me and acting as if the cancer had completely altered me as a person. And, like Tybear, I did not come to this forum until well after my chemo was finished (I am a little over two years post-chemo). When you are living with the side effects of chemo, the one thing you want to do is escape...break the routine. My husband would pick me up from a chemo treatment in our RV and take me away somewhere overnight. Perhaps you could take your daughter to an afternoon movie, out to lunch, or to a bookstore. Maybe you are working on some project that she could also get involved in. I knit and crochet, so I made all my caps in different colors. Working with my hands was really important to me. It helps so much to get one's mind off the cancer. My daughters are grown with families of their own, but they were very attentive during my treatment. I enjoyed hearing about what was happening in their lives, about 'normal' things, because I felt, inside, anything but normal. Hope this helps.
Linda
Sorry, I should have added - maybe get her some books? Get her a gift card to Chapters or something... just a thought.
You are such a sweet and loving Mother. I know for me, I hated it when people felt sorry for me. I had so much pride and it drove me nuts when people would give you that "I'm so sorry" face - I know they meant well, but it just bugged me. I was very open to talking about my cancer and it bothered me when people didn't want to talk about it - it was like they were scared which made me feel uncomfortable. It was still me - just with cancer. The hair thing was so hard for me - the worst was when people would tell me "atleast it grows back" - yeah, I know that. Easy for you to say when you wake up everyday with your hair! I didn't actually come to these support forums until after my treatments ended. It's a very personal decision - she will come when she is ready. Another thing my mom was good at - instead of asking me if I needed anything (to which I would always say no!) she would just show up with groceries and stuff. That helped a lot. I had a hard time asking for help. I'm not sure what else to tell you - you are a wonderful mom and she's lucky to have you!
Take care,
Becky