How do I settle nerves?

[josie05]

Hi,
  I have my surgery to remove a mass or a cyst or whatever(they have no clue what it is), tomorrow. I must say that I have been doing ok with all of this until my dh said, " I can't lose You!"  I have been so busy with our 5 children ages 9,6,4 and 20 month old twins that I guess I have been on automatic pilot, which is good because I haven't worried too much. I just didn't know that my dh was worried at all.
    The truth is we won't know anything until they remove it. I am glad that my gyn has been good about not wasting time with tests that he feels might be inconclusive and scheduled surgery. I just wish I could make my husband not worry so much. If anyone has any ideas on how I could calm his nerves. I feel bad that he will be sitting and waiting for answers while I am having my surgery.
Thanks,
Josie

[xrayu2]

my husband is going thru the same things.  There is no way to calm them down.  my husband was very unspoken about how he felt about me as far as being worried or wondering what is going on when I am out of his sight until here lately.  He feels the need to go grocery shopping with me and has to call every little bit(except when I am at work to check on how I am doing).  Yesterday I had laid down because my pelvic area had been hurting worse than usual , so I snuck to the bedroom and laid down with the lights out. I heard him all over the house asking "where is your mother."  He is very panicky which is much unusual for him.  I think our husbands have come to a point that they realize how they take us for granted sometimes and are facing reality just as we are.  We are not guarenteed another day from one to the next but when faced in thee situations that speaks far too loudly.  Good luck tomorrow and Ihope all goes well for you.  Post when you can give us all some details on how things go.

[kathy o]

Just want you to know that we are all Praying for the best!!
My husband kind of went into some sort of weird thing like cleaning and cooking and shopping??  Also did the please don't do this and that and I would say to him, I don't have cancer of the brain! I hope this does not offend anyone! When my sister had her daughter her husband lost both of the checkbooks and other items that were never found! My husband found great strength through his sister. It is hard to reassure them when you yourself do not know the outcome so you do go into automatic pilot. I do not know if you are religious but we have found great strength in God. Reassure hubby that you Love him and maybe do something special just for him, it does not have to be something big just a little something. Good Luck Sweetie :)