Final stages of ovarian cancer?

[ColleenA]

My mom was diagnosed with ovarian cancer 2 1/2 years ago.  She has had 8 different types of chemo therapy and at the last Dr's visit was told there is nothing else that can be done for her.

I want to be as supportive as possible, and am wondering if I knew what she was going to be going through could I be of more help to her?  Or am I really strange for even wanting to know?

Thanks, Colleen

[Asif_Ali]

Hi I am Asif from Pakistan.

My Mother is 72 years old. She is also suffering from CA Ovary. My mother is a very brave women. She is fighting from this Cancer for last 8 years. We sent her to USA for treatment then after 3 years facing Chemos and Radiotherapy Doctors said that they have stoped it from spreading more. but after three years it emerges back.

Now she is very weak and cannot stand on her feet. She Eat less and vomit all she eats. She is also suffering from backache. Cancer spreads all over her body. We all  love her very much. May God bless her in her misery. I dont know, people wen to explore moons and stars and cannot find the remedy of Aids and Cancer.

Lets hope and pray that someone in future finds it cure and all the people like my Mom gets fully cured from all diseases.

[dalton837]

MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU i JUST LOST MY MOM ON SEPTEMBER 26, 2008 ON MY BABY DAUGHTERS 12TH BDAY
JUST BE THERE FOR YOUR MOM AND LET HER KNOW YOU LOVE HERE AND TRY TO CHERISH EVERY MOMENT YOU HAVE REMEMBER TO PRAY, HOLD HER AND ITS OKAY TO LET HER BE YOUR MOM IF SHE STILL CAN AND LET HER HOLD YOU AND TELL YOU EVERYTHING WILL BE ALRIGHT. WE WERE TOLD THE SAME THING AND THAT MY MOM HAD 6 MONTHS AT BEST SHE LASTED 10 DAYS BEFORE SHE BEGIN HER ETERNAL LIFE WITH GOD! MY BABY WAS TOLD WHAT A BLESSING TO HAVE NANNY GO BE WITH JESUS ON YOUR BIRTHDAY THIS WAS HER LAST GIFT TO YOU WHAT A SPECIAL DAY !!! BUT WE MISS HER EVERYDAY JUST MAKE SURE YOU ARE THERE AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE BECAUSE TODAY COULD BE THE LAST MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. MY MOM FOUGHT HER BATTLE WITH THE SICKNESS AND THE PAIN OF OVARIAN CANCER FOR ALMOST 2 YEARS OCT THE 9 WOULD HAVE BEEN 2 BUT I KNOW THAT ALL HER PAIN IS GONE I WITNESSED SO MANY BLESSINGS FROM GOD DURING THOSE LAST 10 DAYS I KNOW HE ANSWERS PRAYERS AND HIS HOLDING HER NOW WHILE I TYPE SORRY I GOT SO MUCH TO SAY BUT IT HELPS WITH THE PAIN   DEB

[PF_PVD]

Obviously a number of us didn't realized this had been dredged up from the past.  At least people are using the search feature!  I had not thought about this from a warning/no warning perspective, but I have to agree.  When I was young I would have gone for the no warning as well, but my perspective has definitely changed.  For one thing, this disease has taught me I am a lot stronger than I would ever have guessed. Paula

[SimplyStar]

Perhaps you did not notice that the original post  from Coleen is almost 2 years ago.  A very wise Chaplin, told a class of  young nurses one time, when asked about how to deal with death of their patients.  He said God gave some people a warning that they were facing death, others he said had no warning, like in an accident. He asked us which we would prefer, This idea of that choice has followed me since then, as a young nurse I decided I would want to go with no warning. As an adult with a family and many friends gathered up during my life, I wiould choose the warning, so that I could tell them all how much I had loved life and them, prepare them for my passing and then  leave gently into the great unknown of death.  Nothing can replace you but the memories you build on will keep them secure in the knowledge that you loved them.  Marty

[Jen Y]

I just wanted to say that I think you're really brave, and not at all strange for addressing the concerns that you have. My mom was also diagnosed 2.5 years ago and while she has done chemo practically non-stop until then and is still getting treated at present, her CA 125 is still high, her pleural cavity has required tapping, and she continues to have some difficulty breathing, as well as with eating and sleeping. It is a really difficult thing to watch.  

I will be thinking about you and your mom.

[PF_PVD]

As a stage IV who has been told recently that ovca will get me, I have given this some thought as I know I will want to know what to expect myself as it is the unknown that is feared.  I just read a very interesting research paper that talked about when doctor's are asked, "What can I expect?" as you are.  The paper suggested that what the patient really wants to know is if their worst fears will be managed.  These fears will vary from patient to patient and disease to disease.  I know this is really what I will be asking.  I will tell my doctor what those are and will expect him reassure me they will be managed.  I'm sure I can find the link to this paper if you are interested.  I also have a very good document that covers how to help, what to expect, in other words exactly what you are asking.  Let me know by e-mail if you would like either of these documents or links.  So very sorry about what you are going through.  I also have a daughter and my biggest desire will be reassurance that she will be "OK" after I am gone.  Take care...Paula