Chris is absolutely right...we all respond differently to chemo. Beside there being a stage there is also the grade of the cancer cell type and depending on which one she might be can also have an impact on the prognosis. There is grade 1-3. grade 3 being the fastest growing. You will not know the grade until the pathology report is back. As Chris stated she sounds like a stage 3c or 4..the only difference between the 2 is stage 4 there could be tumors IN the liver or fluid drained from the lungs is positive for cancer cells. I'll keep your Mom in prayer that she comes through this well~~~Joanne
How this disease progresses is a hard question to answer because everyone is different and so is their response to chemo. If it has spread to her liver I am guessing that it is probably stage IV. If she is feeling well and eating well, that is a good sign.
Some Drs choose to do surgery right away followed by chemo, others choose to do chemo first, then surgery, and others try part of the chemo first, then surgery and then more chemo. At these late stages there is no cure but it can be controlled if the response to chemo is good. Even though surgery may remove all visible cancer, at this late stage, there will remain microscopic cells that may or may not begin growing again at any time.
You say her Dr is vague. It is his job to answer any and all questions either of you may have, and to explain everything as it happens. If he refuses to do this, you might want to consider finding another Dr who will be open with you and take time to answer your questions and make you aware of what is going on. It is a good idea that your mom take someone with her when she goes to the Dr and that you both sit down before hand and make a list of all of the questions you would like answered.
Please keep us informed and feel free to ask us anything and we will try to answer your questions if we can.
Chris