Hi, i've 6yrs old daughter likes to hit her cousin n friends for no reason or maybe I don't know what the reason . She will hit other and run. By the time you noticed that other child is crying. I explain to her that behaviour is not right and hurt other. But yet she continue to do it again if I didn't see her. She well- behave at school. So far there's no complain about her. Please help!
Thanks UK Ray,
I really like the phrase - because we love you it hurts us when he hurts others.
Thanks for all of your suggestions. We have been hit free since this incident but it is always good to be prepared and try to avoid it in the future,
Thanks for your caring and time.
PFMJUP
What a typicle problem you are experiencing.
You can try a couple of my suggestions,that might just work. (no promises)
Because I beleive this is a "I miss my Daddy reaction" tell him you will phone his daddy and report his misbehaviour. If you are clever in acting you can go through a phantom telephone call in his presence.
You can also show him in writing the bad things to remind you to tell his Daddy.
but not forgetting the good things too.
Tell him that because we love you, it hurts you both when he hurts others.
Why not create a chart showing gold stars for good things, and maybe black crosses for bad things... Make rewards and penalties....Have a go mate.
Regards UK Ray.
Thanks becks715, I really appreciate your input and encouragement! Things have gotten much better!
I think you just need to keep pushing the issue. Keep telling him it is not ok to hit, bite, punch and hurt other people. "you need to use your words when you are angry, not your fists"
I would also sit him down and talk to him , at 6 he knows between right and wrong - ask him if he's mad that daddy went on a trip? Or sad? Get him talking even if it's only to you at first.
Say that when he is mad or sad he can go to his room and be mad or sad and that it's perfectly ok to feel those emotions and express them with words. "when you feel mad walk away and go sit down, that's ok" keep on it, I'm sure his dad being out of town is upsetting him, ecspecially if this behaviour is just now happening when he's gone.
Ask him "why did you hit that boy at school?" no response comes... "where you mad?" do you see what I mean?
Just stay consistant, and when he gets upset at you and flalling around tell him "if you are angry with me that's ok, you can go sit down and be mad and we can talk when you calm down"
He will own it, and it will be controlled but when things like this surface it does take time and consistancy to get it under control. You are doing all the right things with taking away a reward and fun activity he should not be privilegded to those if he's hurting people. Hang in there.