Every mother has indisputable reason to be concerned about how her teen age child of either gender is developing. In most societies and in the nature the mother is responsible for the mental and physical development of her offspring (motherhood) and ought to have knowledge of child’s hygiene, health and stage of physical development on first hand. But with the growing up and reach puberty the opportunity of mother to update her impression about that so delicate matter fall out quite rare, especially after stop bath him at certain age. As a single mother I raise my son alone and willingly take the opportunity, given me of the medical office policy to attend as parent his physical exams and to witness the examination. At 11 ½ my son isn`t to old yet and don`t set his face against but difficulties are liable to occur in the near future.
I never had any problem so far. Something more, all of the chaperones who accompany boys, even obvious older then my own son are mothers. Frankly speaking our local pediatrics is differentiated as specific woman`s territory and I really have never seen fathers in there up to now. That routine is retained from the recent times when the male privacy wasn`t a big deal and nobody even make an attempt to change this convention. However recently I perceive evident changes in my son`s demeanor during his physical exams and notice visible inconvenience and discomfort and aspiration for hide his private parts of me. Probably it`s result of appearance of first signs of changes concomitant his reach into puberty. At 11 ½ my son isn`t to old and don`t set his face against yet, but difficulties are liable to occur in the near future, in spite of that the medical office policy give me rights as parent of underage kid to stay in exam room and to attend the examination.
I looked at your profile but it doesnt say where you are from .. so I will assume it is differant than here in the US .I am inclined to agree with you howver if it is making your son uncomfortable and he is a product of your culture it may be best o take a step back, he is the important one , have you thought to talk to him about it, ask what his feelings are in regard to you being there when he is examined .I love the pic you have put up what a adorable child ..Good luck
I don't think difficulties in this regard need occur. You are the parent and quite frankly, you pay the doctor bill, right? The age of adulthood here in the US is 18 and really up until that point, you see the parents of kids/teenagers with them at the doctors. My sister in law just took her 16 year old son recently. Perhaps you aren't going into the restroom with him as he gets a urine sample but you can sit quietly in a chair during the examination. I would be surprised if many parents DON'T do that.
Margypops is right. You may talk to your son and explain why you would like to be there but certainly you are a few years off from this. Most physicians want parent in put as to how things are going during well visits anyway. I think your son will be fine with this . . . and have never heard of a parent being concerned about this before.
good luck. (remember, he is only 11 and your job is to protect him.)
Thank you for the baking, specialmom. My son is sufficiently obedient and don`t set his face against my insistence to attend his physical exams because there is a pediatrician-office policy who give me that rights as parent, and because other mothers do the same, too. But I have my own arguments who justify my decission. I want to mention that exists countries all over the world where the health care system isn`t so well organized and effective. The regular physical exams are ones in the year, commonly quite superficial and routine. Many small rural schools have only a school nurse available, who is doctor’s position acting. In under the circumstances most mothers choose to handle the main care of their offspring`s health and physical development. On account of this purpose the mother must to be aware of the stage of development and physical changes of her children.
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