child being weird

[consirnedparent]

hello i have a 12 year old boy and i found out he masturbates and i asked him about it and he started talking about how he also sucks his friends penis and hisfriends brother and he also enjoys being naked and looks a gay porn can you help me and tell me what i shoould do and if you think he is gay.

[ponderousmom]

yes you can stop your children from doing things--and he is that, a child--you watch them, its that simple, if hes doing that with his friends, dont let him go around them.  if he has things he shouldnt, take them.  and yes, boys will smuggle things in--i have 2 brothers and 4 sons--but when they did/do wrong, they are held accountable.  it hasnt been that terribly long since i was 12--what is wrong with people????

[miscdesign]

Having had brothers growing up it's amazing what they can get their hands on - without the parents knowing.  You are right, being gay is not the issue.  The issue is the sex - definitely should not be having it.  What I meant by stopping him was that although in a perfect world we would like to stop our children from doing anything we deem inappropriate (which this definitely falls under) there are times when we can't control what they do.  I do think that therapy would be a good option here, not medication but therapy.  

Just my opinion.

[ponderousmom]

if you cant stop him?  hes 12!!!!!  why is he so interested in sex at 12???  how does he have porn???  being gay is not the issue....

[miscdesign]

It definitely sounds like he is gay, but you should be more concerned that he is having sex at 12 (doesn't matter with who). If you can't stop him from doing it, then you need to make sure he's practicing safe sex...

be there for him though... he has to be going thru something...