My daughter's best friend's mom told me today that the girls were kissing during their last sleep over at her house, but she didn't think it was a big deal. Our daughter is 7 and hers is just eight. I was leaning toward thinking the kisses were pretty innocent. However, I asked our daughter if she kissed the other girl and at first she told me "no". I know this isn't true. Later she told me she just couldn't remember it happening. Why would she hide it? This concerns me most of all. Should we have a talk with both girls and both parents? I don't want to put the girls on the spot. I just don't want either child being manipulated.
I would especially love a recommendation for a book kids can read themselves or with guidance about touch and appropriate behaviors. Thank you in advance for your thoughts.
I talked to my daughter (who is the same age) about appropriate touching and she is open about things. However, when I was a girl--my mother was not open about these types of conversations so I feared her and I feared everyone finding out (teachers, aunts, other parents) if I told her the truth.
I kissed a girl when I was about that age--we were practicing for when we would grow up--for our imaginary husbands.
I have never kissed a girl since and have never had the inclination--I think of it as silly now.
My mother made a big deal out of it--and I thought something was nasty about it for many years--until as an adult I realized that I was just a little girl kissing another little girl--like in a fairy tale--how the prince and princess kiss for happily ever after.
My daughter and I talk--and I make sure that she understands that some things are just between us. I think it might be the fear that you will have a meeting or that she will get into trouble that keeps her from telling you the truth.
I am having this same problem my daughter is 7 yet this is like the 3rd incident she has had with 3 different girls her age in the last three years. Each time I told her it is wrong. I was starting to believe she may be thinking she is a lesbian at this age they already know from what I know. Not only does she kiss but she is touching them in other places. I experienced this when I was younger yet I WASN'T 5, 6, OR 7!
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