Wouldnt hurt to cut him some slack, how about you do some sports and games with him, does it matter that his Mom pays him a lot of attention, I think thats a good thing, maybe you could try to get closer to him by getting more involved all 3 of you could go out and do some stuff and you can do so many fun things with an 11 year old, Good luck,
Thanks, I got him a bike, now skis, football etc...but I need to push him a lot and gets him upset. What he really wants is to play and build snowman and eventhat we've built an igloo of sorts. Otherwise, he's crunched behind the TV and his Nintendo and his Mom now wishes to buy him a TV for his room(as if that will help..) That will further hibernate him to stay on the couch and watch video after video
Suggest ??
I don't think you're being fair. You admit you used to put your daughter to bed at that age, too. I don't really see that it's THAT big a deal that she has to go in later and turn the light off.
If both those children were your bio kids, you wouldn't insist on so much privacy from him, in my opinion. My husband and I go upstairs to watch TV, kids come with often. We go outside to sit on the deck and have a glass of wine, the teenagers follow us for awhile if they feel like it.
Your attitude toward your stepson, isn't uncommon among stepparents. But it's not how bio parents feel usually.
You'd get better sex if you stop complaining about him, BTW. Just a thought.
Yes but they are all material things I am saying do stuff with him outside games and activities nothing to do with Bikes and TVs skis and football, get involved with him, even playing a board game like Monopoly or scrabble is more involment ,Turn off the TV and the Nintendo doesnt matter what his Mom thinks he should have, get him out and doing more physical stuff., I agree that it will make him hibernate more.if he gets a TV for his room, say NO