I'm 14 and need help!!!

Hello! My behavior with my parents is just unbelieveable! In a bad way! What can I do to help change that?

[becks715]

If you mean how you personally are behaving then I would approach your parents and explain you know how awful you are being.

You have to understand at 14 your hormones are changing in drastic ways and that can make even the nicest person a miserable one.  You need to take a breath before you react.  And have to understand that for parents it's difficult to let go of their children 14 is still very young although you feel you are old enough to do certain things and be independent.  So try to understand where they are coming from.  And try to think before you react.  And remember if you react badly, go back later and apologize.  Talk to your parents they understand what you are going through, they were teens once too. :)

[April2]

If you have a hard time talking to your parents without getting into an argument, perhaps you could wite them a letter telling them how you feel. My teenage daughter did that with me last year. It was very touching. She said she didn't know why she acted the way she did and she didn't like it and asked me to forgive her. I still have the letter. We don't always get along, but I think we know we love each other.
A lot of this probably is the age. It's especially hard with teenage daughters and their mothers, I think. A lot of this is normal. Your body and mind is changing and growing very rapidly right now. You are wanting to move away from your parents more and gain some independence, but you also still need them. It's not an easy transistion. Sometimes it's hard for parents to let go. That's why it's better for them to start giving your more responsiblilities and freedom gradually, so that by the time you're ready to move out, you'll be ok to be on your own.
See if you can sit down with them and ask what freedoms you can start to have. For instance, maybe they can start to let you go to the mall with your friends as long as you stay together in a group and have cell phones, etc. Or if they're not quite ready for that yet, maybe they can take you to the mall and stay in the building but let you and your friends walk around and plan on meeting in a certain place at a certain time. I started doing that with my 14 year old. We started off small like that. Then when she turned 15, I let her go to the mall without me but still with her friends.Next year she'll be allowed to go on dates one on one. See, I'm letting go little by little. See if they'll be agreeable to that.
And try and remember, these years won't last forever. It will get better, I promise!

[stlmom]

Great comment!  I also have a 14 yr old daughter and she can really blow up at me at times but then be as sweet as pie the next. HORMONES....and I am going through my change....talk about flashes...LOL  You just have to remember to have a good sense of humor, love your teens unconditionally and teach them that in life there is always going to be consequenses and disappointments. That's LIFE!  We all make mistakes--even us parents...but...remember to apologize when you hurt someone and treat everyone like you would expect them to treat you.
I also raised 3 sons as a single/widowed mom and they all gave me hell at times but to this day they STILL call me and apologize if they are disrespectful. I gave them space and love.....they have returned the same to their mom.......