How to cope with my 6 year old son

[tigger1979]

I would really appreciate any advice.  I am a single parent although my sons father is still around but little back up for discipline.  My problem is that for the last six months or so my son's behaviour has gone off the scale.  He shouts and screams at me, he kicks, punches and bites but the worst thing is that whenever i am tryin to deal with any of these he laughs in my face and then runs away shouting "She's after me!" like its a game.  I have tried telling him its not funny, its no game but after a few times of this I really struggle to control my mood and temperament and when he starts kicking and punching again i end up trying to restrain him which doesn't work either.  He tells me all the time that i don't love him, that he hates me, that he wants to go and live with his Dad which I struggle with as his Dad has been in and out of his life since he was born but because he has settled in the last year, my son now wants to go and live with him and have his wife as his Mum.  He even told me today that if he went to live with his Dad he wouldn't want to see me, even on his birthday or Christmas.  He seems so out of control at times and i'm getting to the point where its wearing me down.  I work full-time and when i get home with him in the evenings, i want us to enjoy each others company, not fight and argue.  I have tried possibly every different method or parenting fad going or suggested and nothing has helped.  I've got to the point of being so confused now I don't know what to do to discipline him even if i could get him to listen to me and recognise that his behaviour is unacceptable.  I don't know where I went wrong...  It was his parents evening last week and they said his mood is fine at school but now he's not working, like he's daydreaming or not understanding whats going on.  He's always been thought of as being a clever child so I never thought this would be an issue but they said that some days he only writes the date.  Any advice would be really greatly appreciated.  

[margypops]

I agree with the above post it sounds like he does want to see his Dad more ..

[leela0399]

You could try to take him to visit his dad every few weeks or so and get a routine where he visits for a few hours or so. Maybe about the behavioral problems you might take him to the doctors for some tests for ADD or something. Let's us know how it turns out!