My 9 year old girl is very sensitive even for simplest things. She will start to cry spontaneously on any kind of negative comment or any immprovement suggesions at home. A simple remark like " keep your closet organised" or " the anwer is wrong for that problem"
She has become super consious in keeping her a perfectionalist like making her bed in the morning or a flat abs etc which she is too particular, that she spends atleast 20 mins on keeping the bed and atleast 3 to 5 times she checks that her abs is flat. But wouldnt be ready to hear a comment other than appreciation. We have a 2 yr old boy too.... she wouldnt let him in her room or touch her things... Its all with what she wants to do. She wouldnt listen to anything what we suggest or tell her. She becomes very angry at times and behaves little abnormal like making herself funny, laughing and crying at herslf in front of the mirror, playing alone, throwing away things .... and pulling her hair etc...She has become a poor listener too...at times she lies on very simple things... on very silly things... like one day she opened the other car instead, when I asked she lied of it. I didnot feel any significant motive in her lies...as many times it wouldnot matter on whatever she had done.
Otherwise she is very polite, very understanding,even if shes sad she would smile for us and our source of happiness, very submissive caring, kind loving child, so far I have seen her like. With her habits, she was listening to whatever I say, was very happy child. She would always need a strong motivation at approprite timings to be consistant ..... most likely she will not be consistant otherwise ....Nowadays she wants to be seculed or reads books and mostly interested in teens shows ..... we understand it would be because of preteen stage, but I am quite concerned about her changing attitudes towards the other aspects of being rigid of not accepting the results, emotional and sensitive.
She understands that she shouldnot do that but would not help herself....or accept to our suggestions
Please suggest us to keep her on track mostly, we are very concerned of her happiness and comfort.