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Why do I feel this way? I hate being a stepmom
We have 7 year old step son 50/50. Switch off day is Wednesday. I start to get depressed knowing Wednesday is coming. The minute he is with us I struggle for a week and count the hours til he's gone. I just hate him. Hate having to deal with him. Hate seeing him. Hate it when he talks, makes noise does anything. I'm not posting this so a bunch of people will go off on me. I love my husband and know it's got to work out - these are just my honest feelings and I am aware it's a little odd. I don't understand why I hate a 7 year old so much. I hate it when he sits on his dads lap. Or is excited to see him. Or gets hurt for attention. I hate it when my husband talks about how "big" his son is. I just hate everything. What is wrong with me!!????
Thanks. I will try.....he doesn't like me either though...
I don't have children of my own. We plan to eventually.
I don't have children of my own. We plan to eventually.
I just read your other post on this forum.
Hmm. What would it look like if you really loved this child? What would your relationship look like?
Act like that. Act like what it would look like if you really loved this boy, and your life will be immensely easier. Emotions follow behavior.
The next week you keep him intend to make it appear that you are looking forward to seeing him and can't wait to play with him, and if you do this with sincerity in your heart, you won't believe how your life will improve.
Hmm. What would it look like if you really loved this child? What would your relationship look like?
Act like that. Act like what it would look like if you really loved this boy, and your life will be immensely easier. Emotions follow behavior.
The next week you keep him intend to make it appear that you are looking forward to seeing him and can't wait to play with him, and if you do this with sincerity in your heart, you won't believe how your life will improve.
I'm not quite sure there is something "wrong" with you, it's more that this is pretty typical stepmom emotions. What you're feeling is pretty common among step parents, in my experience.
Do you have biological children of your own? Maybe it might help you put this in perspective imagining another woman feeling this way about your own biological children.
If you want to "make this work out" with your husband, as you say, it might be important to find a way to pretend to like this child. Maybe imagine in your mind he's your sister's child or your brother's child?
Honestly, I wish I had a 7 year old to play with again. They are very, very fun. When this boy grows into an adult, you don't want him remembering you as someone who hated him.
Best wishes.
Do you have biological children of your own? Maybe it might help you put this in perspective imagining another woman feeling this way about your own biological children.
If you want to "make this work out" with your husband, as you say, it might be important to find a way to pretend to like this child. Maybe imagine in your mind he's your sister's child or your brother's child?
Honestly, I wish I had a 7 year old to play with again. They are very, very fun. When this boy grows into an adult, you don't want him remembering you as someone who hated him.
Best wishes.
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