Experimenting

[mamak17]

My son was caught experimenting with another lil boy? What should I do and is this normal behavior that happens with little kids?

[mamak17]

I did make an appointment for my son to talk with a counsolar, just to make sure that nothing is going to happen like this again and to make sure that my son hasn't been exposed to anything like this from anyone else.

[mamak17]

My son is really embarrassed and says that he's learned his lesson and says that he'll never do it again. I believe him and can tell that he's telling the truth. The other kids parents are sending their kids to councolling and are talking about how the CPS could get involved. I really don't know what to think or what to say... were thinking about getting him into councolling as well but I honestly don't feel that he needs it. I am going to keep a close eye on his actions and see if I see any red flags but, seems how this has only happened once, and the way he's acting about it now I really don't think I'll have anything to worry about...

[babygirl6152]

I was taught that something was "wrong" if it was done after you were informed that it was wrong

1. the child has been corrected
2. he has not done it again
3. he has led others to this behavior
4. it is now the other mother's job to correct another child's (hers) behavior after he has already been taught it is unacceptable/

I could use this logic with anyone- for instance-

you want something from a department store
you are too young to realize it is wrong to steal-
you want it, so you take it
your mother catches you after the fact
she tells you that it was wrong and has YOU return the item
you have reconciled with the store (the offended party)
you promise not to do it again
you never take anything again that does not belong to you

Now if the department store employee that you returned the item to, decides to steal-how are you accountable for HIS actions? you are not

Since you feel private parts should be kept private til after marriage
- you ask YOUR son- "what have you learned?"

If he has learned this- you have done your job.....

write me a note if you want to chat more about this

I am sorry things have stirred so badly and your son is being held accountable for the whole neighborhood's actions now

[mamak17]

But the lil boy that he did that with is now doing it to other little boys and my son is being blamed by all these ppl. I just don't know what to do!!

[mamak17]

he's 7 year's old and he was defently raised to get his private parts private. There was no penetration. they just touched each other's private parts. He says he learned it from the discovery channel late one night

[babygirl6152]

has he been taught it was wrong? after age 8, we say that is the age of reason- a conscience should be fully developed. if he was taught it was wrong and he is over age 8 then it is way out of line- if he is MUCH older and there was penetration- you have to report it to CPS for the other child's safety.

And you know why we have all these questions now? Anyone wanna guess why there is confusion as to whether it is right or wrong? GEEEEEE