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[Maceymacey]

My boyfriend is trying to tell me I have to move out and that I can't slowly quit smoking and that my family cant smoke in their own house cause were pregnant. I don't wanna move out and I can't stop smoking cold turkey..my ad says its all up to me right now.. Not him.. Even I it is his baby.. Why do I feel so bad ?

[kristawea]

Tell your family to smoke outside cuz even when the baby comes its so bad for their lungs and yours. I smoke so i know how u feel. I can't quit cold Turkey and every time i try to not smoke a butt I just makes me want to smoke more. But I've asked everyone at my house to smoke outside cuz I do have a 3,4,&5 yr old in the house. My 4 yr old has asthma from the smoke. I would also show ur bf threads on trying to quit smoking while prego. He might get the hint its very hard to quit in general never mind when ur prego!!!

[adgal]

Whoops...my comments should not have read...take some deep breathes and pull out that cigarette.  It should have read..."take some deep breathes and pull out that list".  Sorry!

[adgal]

If it were that easy to just quit, I am pretty sure no one would smoke anymore.  We all know it's bad for us, and we all know it's bad for unborn children.  Unfortunately it's just not that simple.  It's a very real addiction, no different from alcoholism or drug addiction.  

I did it and it was hard, but so worth it.  I'm going to give you a few tips that might help. They sure helped me.  Make a list of all the reasons you don't want to smoke anymore. Carry it around as a reminder to pull out when you are having a craving.  Candies or gum also helped.  My favorite was lifesavers or carrot sticks.  When a craving hits you, count to 10.  Take some deep breathes and pull out that cigarette.  Just take it day by day...heck, there were times I took it hour by hour or even minute by minute.  I used to say to myself every single day...today I will not smoke.  I didn't think about tomorrow...that was way to stressful.  Just today.  And try really hard not to put yourself around smokers.  It just makes it so much harder.

Congrats on trying so hard.  It isn't easy, but it is so much healthier for your baby, and trust me, that will become increasingly more important to you. Yes, lots of babies are born healthy to moms that smoke, but so many are not.  It is linked to things like low birth weight, asthma and a host of other things.  

I would also make a suggestion that some quit with the name calling.  It sure doesn't help now does it.  

Best of luck to you honey.  I did it and trust me, if I can do it, anyone can!  Just take it day by day and you'll get there.  Congrats on your pregnancy.

[stacey10]

I'm not healthy and neither is my brother, my mother smoked all the way through her pregnancies and I have eye p[roblems associated with her smoking and my brother has lung problems as well, this was before anyone new of the dangers to unborn babies, now we know how harmful it can be, its best to stop

[jcleveland]

I smoked through my whole 1st pregnancy and am currently still smoking  and pregnant now. I have been told to cut back slowly because quitting cold turkey puts more stress on baby and that's not a good thing. Granted I know smoking isn't a good thing either but everyone I know who has smoked through their pregnancy has perfectly healthy babies.

[stacey10]

well your doing extremely well then getting down to 1 a day, give yourself a huge pat on the back for that :)

[Brittsmitt]

It's very important that you try your best to quit, but you don't want stress yourself out over it either. Make sure your doing it at your own pace and not pushing yourself to hard because, to much stress could cause you to lose your baby. That's what happened to me with my first pregnancy. The thought that I could smoke if I wanted or needed to seemed to help me, rather than the thought that I just can't have it at all.

[Maceymacey]

I'm down to 1 a day .. And I found out two days ago... And he is doin his best. Thanks alot!

[Maceymacey]

Thanks !

[Ashelen]

I recommend trying the ecigarettes as well, there are many brands and they are affordable (especially compared to a several-pack-a-week habit)...my husband has had success cutting back his smoking using these.

Honestly, I think your boyfriend has every right to insist that you TRY to quit smoking since it IS his baby too. He can't force you and he must recognize that you have an addiction.

Addictions cannot be broken because they SHOULD be or because you NEED to stop smoking, you have to break an addiction because you are determined to do it, and READY to do it.

So I would do some research and speak to my doctor about the risks of smoking during pregnancy, and what you could do to either quit or cut back and what that would mean for the baby's health. If you are ready, try to cut back. If you are not ready, all the pressure in the world from your boyfriend won't do anything aside from cause problems in your relationship.

Do the best you can, that's all you can do. I personally don't support smoking during pregnancy because it can affect the placenta, which can be dangerous for baby, but I also recognize that it's an addiction and while I might not support what you do, I support YOU. hopefully your boyfriend can come to terms with this and try to support you instead of badgering you.

[help_me314]

yeah you can get cheap ones, for $15 online. I am not a doctor but I don't think they are harmful since it is just vapor water smoke from an atomizer. My sister had a healthy baby girl after using it. just speaking from personal experience. good luck though.

[kelsebby92]

They sell them at gas stations also

[help_me314]

Have you ever heard of the vapor smoke devices? It is flavored vapor water that your smoking and you can order them with out nicotine.Since your only smoking vapor water it has no tar. just gives you the oral fixation. "blu cig" got my sister to quit with in the first couple months of her pregnancy. Just make sure you order ones with out nicotine. Im not saying this will work for you, it just did for my sister, and it might help you.

[stacey10]

I think your boyfriend is doing the right thing by encouraging you to stop smoking, and also being worried about your family smoking in the house as well, there are plenty of studies showing that second hand smoke from others smoking is just as dangerous if not more than if your smoking, so your actually inhalling double the smoke, from when you have one and from when your family does as well, also as well as affecting bub in your tummy it is advised not to bring a new baby into the house if anyone is smoking  as this increases the risk of sids, so you do have alot to think about, the sooner you can get yourself into a smoke free environment the better for both you and the baby

[jenamarie]

Talk to your boyfriend and tell him that quitting cold turkey is hard, but you should definatley try to cut down. I am 10 weeks pregnant and I smoked at the beginning of my pregnancy but now can't smoke or be around the smell....it makes me sooooo sick. Good luck and Congrats!

[kelsebby92]

Try talking to your bf and tell him that its hard to quit smoking cold turkey most people can't do it. But do make sure you try to quit as it can really affect the baby, try doing other things like chewing a lot of gum or puff on a straw when you get the craving to smoke a cig. But the only thing you can do is talk to your bf and explain to him how you feel, I mean I can see where he's coming from because it seems he wants you and your baby to be healthy, and to ASK your family to smoke outside when your around instead of inside and around you because the more your around the smell the less you will want to quit. Also its your first trimester and believe me you will feel bad a lot because of your hormones, and it *****. But you just need to keep the communication flowing with you and your boyfriend and make sure he knows you want a say in things to.

[Maceymacey]

Im2 months and I meant my dad not my ad.