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Couple questions 1mos old....Binky eating and sleeping habits..
Okay, so the last day we were at the hospital they wheel my son in with a BINKY, I was so mad because as soon as we took it out he became fussy, we hadn't heard him fuss at all at the hospital until then....NOW its like once he gets it he's fine....the problem is everytime it falls out.....he wakes up and wants it again.Even when he's up and it falls out he'll fuss sometimes. He is such a good baby but its SOOOOOO Annoying I HATE BINKYS!!!!! What can I do about this??? Like right now im lucky he falls asleep to Celine dion...so im playing it on youtube and hes got the binky and just fell fast asleep with the binky...when he falls into a ddeeper sleep i MIGHT be able to pull it out without him waking up....but sometimes he'll wake up 5mins later fussing bc he doesnt have it or bc it fell out...and he wakes up MAD.
2nd question.....Sometimes if I keep him up.....he will want to eat like an hr after he just had a 6 oz bottle....I dont get it.....is it just that he's bored and THINKS he wants to eat? Sometimes I try to occupy him and it works for a little bit....but then he really lets me know he wants to eat.......
In the beginning he was eating every 4-5 hrs now its every 3......im so tired....what do i do? should i stall him and then make an 8oz? I dont know what to do when he does that...I dont think he's hungry I think he just is bored or something....maybe im wrong? Idk. what i should do he's only a month old.
Also we let him lay in the bed to just nap....for example sometimes when im tired ill take a nap with him....he LOVES it....he sleeps..atleast 4 hrs he gets maybe TOO comfy. AND when I rock him in my arms and he falls alseep, ill put him down in the crib he whips his arms up and kicks his feet like he's MAD sometimes he wakes up bc he knows he's in the crib and will cry OR will be WIDE awake after being out cold. I dont know what to do....im so exhausted......Please help!!!!!
2nd question.....Sometimes if I keep him up.....he will want to eat like an hr after he just had a 6 oz bottle....I dont get it.....is it just that he's bored and THINKS he wants to eat? Sometimes I try to occupy him and it works for a little bit....but then he really lets me know he wants to eat.......
In the beginning he was eating every 4-5 hrs now its every 3......im so tired....what do i do? should i stall him and then make an 8oz? I dont know what to do when he does that...I dont think he's hungry I think he just is bored or something....maybe im wrong? Idk. what i should do he's only a month old.
Also we let him lay in the bed to just nap....for example sometimes when im tired ill take a nap with him....he LOVES it....he sleeps..atleast 4 hrs he gets maybe TOO comfy. AND when I rock him in my arms and he falls alseep, ill put him down in the crib he whips his arms up and kicks his feet like he's MAD sometimes he wakes up bc he knows he's in the crib and will cry OR will be WIDE awake after being out cold. I dont know what to do....im so exhausted......Please help!!!!!
Im a first time mother so I cant be much help to you, but I can say, I wouldnt complain about the binky thing too much, like you said it stops him from being fussy. My son wouldnt take a paci nd still wont. i would love if he would have
About the eating thing, it is true, babies wont eat unless there hungry, so its defiently not because hes bord. I jsut cant believe hes eating that much already, my son is 4 months old and he only eats 5 oz. 8oz is way too much for a one month old baby at this time. And making him eat more just so he will go longer not eating isnt good either. like someone else pointed out, there bellies are way too small for that. my son eats ever three hours on the dot. he knows exactly when its been 3 hours. but as a one month old he might eat every 2 hours, cause thats when my son ate at that age.
As for the sleeping thing, yes its true that sleeping with mommy can cause SIDS but I let my son sleep with me for the first 3 weeks he was born, but i made sure there were no pillows or blankets around, which was easy cause it was summer. but now he sleeps in his own bed, but there are nights where he will fall asleep in my arms, and when I put him down he is wide awake, theres really nothing you can do, but try and put them to bed again.. yes its exhausting, but thats what babies do to you.
About the eating thing, it is true, babies wont eat unless there hungry, so its defiently not because hes bord. I jsut cant believe hes eating that much already, my son is 4 months old and he only eats 5 oz. 8oz is way too much for a one month old baby at this time. And making him eat more just so he will go longer not eating isnt good either. like someone else pointed out, there bellies are way too small for that. my son eats ever three hours on the dot. he knows exactly when its been 3 hours. but as a one month old he might eat every 2 hours, cause thats when my son ate at that age.
As for the sleeping thing, yes its true that sleeping with mommy can cause SIDS but I let my son sleep with me for the first 3 weeks he was born, but i made sure there were no pillows or blankets around, which was easy cause it was summer. but now he sleeps in his own bed, but there are nights where he will fall asleep in my arms, and when I put him down he is wide awake, theres really nothing you can do, but try and put them to bed again.. yes its exhausting, but thats what babies do to you.
LMAO Ivy, I needed that chuckle this morning ...I like the "stinky post" hehe.
I also wanted to say that ALL of my kids used pacifiers. My oldest gave hers up by 18 months, my middle 2 by around 2 yo and my youngest gave his up on his own at about 5 months. One day he just started refusing it and never wanted it again.
I also wanted to say that ALL of my kids used pacifiers. My oldest gave hers up by 18 months, my middle 2 by around 2 yo and my youngest gave his up on his own at about 5 months. One day he just started refusing it and never wanted it again.
oop sorry to post again but I invited you to the parenting newborn/infants group, there should be an invite in your msgs...please join! I hope to have a good community established where you can come for all newborn/infant questions, as well as support to get through these times.
just have to add...always feed baby when baby's hungry...always answer baby's cries immediately...at this age it's vital to establishing their trust of you and it will actually help their independence later because they feel confident that you'll always be behind them.
my daughter was the most spoiled newborn in the world I never let her cry for more than a minute and she's the MOST independent toddler you could imagine. much to my chagrin, lol.
i fought the binky battle with my daughter until she was old enough to put it in, and i fight it with my son (7 1/2wks old) but it's worth it because I know it's a comfort thing and it's helping him transition to the real world. he was born with a s ucking callous so I know that he needs the motion to soothe and I won't deny him that even if it drives me insane all night, lol.
you will survive this! before you know it your newborn will be gone, you'll be getting more sleep, and you'll wonder where the time went...I promise.
my daughter was the most spoiled newborn in the world I never let her cry for more than a minute and she's the MOST independent toddler you could imagine. much to my chagrin, lol.
i fought the binky battle with my daughter until she was old enough to put it in, and i fight it with my son (7 1/2wks old) but it's worth it because I know it's a comfort thing and it's helping him transition to the real world. he was born with a s ucking callous so I know that he needs the motion to soothe and I won't deny him that even if it drives me insane all night, lol.
you will survive this! before you know it your newborn will be gone, you'll be getting more sleep, and you'll wonder where the time went...I promise.
I agree with the poster who said that the binky or pacifer or whatever you want to call it battle just isn't worth fighting right now. I mean, I know that a lot of parents are worried about their babies becoming "addicted" and not wanting to give them up, but they all do eventually. My oldest took one from day 1 and gave his up without too much trouble when he was about a year old. My baby (7 months old) never wanted one. At this age, they are still learning to self soothe, and if a pacifier helps with that, then I'd say let it be for now.
Also.....I wouldn't make a 1 month old wait for a feeding, especially in an effort to get him to sleep longer - if he's hungry, feed him. My youngest is mostly breastfed aside from some solids at breakfast and dinner and a formula feed in a sippy cup (he won't take a bottle) before bed. He'll only drink max 4ozs. before bed....and that gets him through the entire night, from 8pm to 8am!
Also.....I wouldn't make a 1 month old wait for a feeding, especially in an effort to get him to sleep longer - if he's hungry, feed him. My youngest is mostly breastfed aside from some solids at breakfast and dinner and a formula feed in a sippy cup (he won't take a bottle) before bed. He'll only drink max 4ozs. before bed....and that gets him through the entire night, from 8pm to 8am!
hahahahahahaha rofl you can tell I have a newborn and a 2-year-old...I meant to put "sticky" post
I'm in a hurry so I didn't get to read all of this....but the one thing to remember about binkies that is sometimes overlooked is that the AAP thinks that the use of a binky reduces the risks of SIDS slightly....so as annoying as they are, it may be worth that extra safeguard.
are you a member of the newborn/infant community? if not you can find a link to it from my profile (where all my communities and forums are listed) ...there's a stinky post up there about SIDS and AAP recommendations and it sorta explains the binky thing.
are you a member of the newborn/infant community? if not you can find a link to it from my profile (where all my communities and forums are listed) ...there's a stinky post up there about SIDS and AAP recommendations and it sorta explains the binky thing.
Ok, here's MY take after having 4 kids so far...
First of all...some babies just need the sucking motion for soothing. It could be the reason why the hospital gave him the binky to begin with. At this point it may be better for everyone, especially sanity wise to just let him have the binky.
As for feeding...at a month old babies will feed frequently...typically anywhere from every 2-4 hours. That's not to say 2-4 hours from the FINISH of the last feeding to the beginning of the next...it's counted from the start of a feeding to the start of the next.
At this point I'd be surprised if he was eating 4-5 ounces at a feeding, but 8 oz is WAY too much for a 1 month old regardless of how long it's been since he ate. A babies stomach is about the size of their fist and depending on what you are feeding him will depend on how fast he digests it.
Being exhausted is all part of the new parent job description unfortunately, sometimes you just have to make some compromises, as in with the binky situation, in order to get much needed rest and keep from going crazy.
I suggest you speak with your sons pediatrician about what are reasonable expectations of a one month old baby.
I also don't think you should let him cry it out. At this stage he is still adjusting to life outside the womb...it's a big scary world and he's looking for comfort. It's your job to provide that. Studies have proven that the amount of comfort and one on one care an infant gets in the first few months can have a big impact on them.
Take naps when he naps. I couldn't tell you how many times I fell asleep with a sleeping baby on my chest. Readjust your priorities for a little while. It's not the end of the world if some of the housework doesn't get done....if the laundry is clean, so what if it's not folded. At this point it's ALL about taking care of YOU and that baby of yours.
First of all...some babies just need the sucking motion for soothing. It could be the reason why the hospital gave him the binky to begin with. At this point it may be better for everyone, especially sanity wise to just let him have the binky.
As for feeding...at a month old babies will feed frequently...typically anywhere from every 2-4 hours. That's not to say 2-4 hours from the FINISH of the last feeding to the beginning of the next...it's counted from the start of a feeding to the start of the next.
At this point I'd be surprised if he was eating 4-5 ounces at a feeding, but 8 oz is WAY too much for a 1 month old regardless of how long it's been since he ate. A babies stomach is about the size of their fist and depending on what you are feeding him will depend on how fast he digests it.
Being exhausted is all part of the new parent job description unfortunately, sometimes you just have to make some compromises, as in with the binky situation, in order to get much needed rest and keep from going crazy.
I suggest you speak with your sons pediatrician about what are reasonable expectations of a one month old baby.
I also don't think you should let him cry it out. At this stage he is still adjusting to life outside the womb...it's a big scary world and he's looking for comfort. It's your job to provide that. Studies have proven that the amount of comfort and one on one care an infant gets in the first few months can have a big impact on them.
Take naps when he naps. I couldn't tell you how many times I fell asleep with a sleeping baby on my chest. Readjust your priorities for a little while. It's not the end of the world if some of the housework doesn't get done....if the laundry is clean, so what if it's not folded. At this point it's ALL about taking care of YOU and that baby of yours.
i would not give a 1 month old an 8 oz bottle just to get him to go longer btw feeds. My 1 yr old can barely finish an 8 oz bottle. Babies that age are SUPPOSED to eat every 3-4 hrs if formula fed (much more frequently if breastfed). Their tummies are tiny. If you push feeds to cram more food in there, you are overriding his natural ability to regulate how much and how frequently he eats based on NEEDS and set him up for overeating and obesity in the future. You should read up on feeding guidelines and revise your expectations of this tiny little baby.
I disagree with SBarrett520 dont just let a one month old baby cry it out. You can not spoil them too much. Control crying is for when they are a bit bigger. The first 2 months are just so hard but unfortunately you just have to go with the flow. What ever gets you through the day is the right thing to do. Even if that is extra bottles or falling asleep with bub on your chest. Have you tried swaddling him tight. Babies will jerk themselves in there sleep and often wake up because they have hit themselves. I recommend using a muslim (cotton) swaddle to wrap baby up tight. It works every time.
Firstly a baby is never just bored and just wants to eat for no reason if your baby wants to eat it is because he is hungry and wants to be fed... Babies grow at an amazing speed and so they need all the nutrition that they can get sometimes they may need more then others but if the baby is hungry feed him! Second binkys have actually been proven to help reduce the risk of sids so binkys are not as evil as you seem to belive. Plus never ever lay a baby on your bed to sleep this can be very dangerous because your bed is not supportive enough for your baby they can roll even just a little and have their airway blocked especially with all the pillows and blankets you probably have on your bed... Babies need a firm mattress with nothing around them that is soft such as pillows, blankets, stuffed animals, or toys.. He will eventually get used to you putting him down in his crib and if he crys a little after you but him in it just walk away he will eventually fall back to sleep.. And always lay him on his back never on his belly or side!!!
My son is 7 weeks old and when he goes through a growth spurts, eats almost every hour. At his last growth spurt almost 2 weeks ago, he was eating every 2 hrs. He was then eating 4 1/2 ozs. A few times, I upped it and fed him 5-6 ozs. Babies go through a growth spurt around 10 days old, 3 weeks, 6 weeks and 3 mos.
It's possible yours is going through one as well. My baby became extremely fussy, clingy and HUNGRY when going thru a spurt. If he's hungry, feed him. Maybe provide him with more milk/formula to see if he eats it all. Does he eat everything you give him now? If so, try giving him more. He also would refuse to sleep in his crib, which he used to do. Once the growth spurts were over, he'd go back to sleeping in his crib. Yeah, he slept so good in bed with me and the BF, but I didn't like him sleeping with us. We had no choice and we survived.
My son eats 5-6 ozs every 3 hours. Once in awhile he cluster feeds, but that makes him sleep longer. He has been known to sleep 6-7 hrs at a stretch.
Good Luck... There is light at the end of all this! :)
Lisa
It's possible yours is going through one as well. My baby became extremely fussy, clingy and HUNGRY when going thru a spurt. If he's hungry, feed him. Maybe provide him with more milk/formula to see if he eats it all. Does he eat everything you give him now? If so, try giving him more. He also would refuse to sleep in his crib, which he used to do. Once the growth spurts were over, he'd go back to sleeping in his crib. Yeah, he slept so good in bed with me and the BF, but I didn't like him sleeping with us. We had no choice and we survived.
My son eats 5-6 ozs every 3 hours. Once in awhile he cluster feeds, but that makes him sleep longer. He has been known to sleep 6-7 hrs at a stretch.
Good Luck... There is light at the end of all this! :)
Lisa
I'll answer the best I can.
Binky I'd say if you are exhausted go with the binky may not be a battle worth fighting right now. Babies suck to soothe themselves if you take binky away chances are you will get a thumb sucker. But there are some great binkys that are orthodontic approved. If you take binky away you will probably have a cranky baby on your hands for several days till he finds his thumb.
As for feeding sounds like cluster feeding may be starting. At approx 6 weeks some a little sooner babies hit a growth spurt. I wouldn't worry about over feeding you would know if he was full and eating bc it would come right back out the way it went in. Babies are funny like that.
I know that sleeping with baby is SO comfy and relaxing and heavenly and baby will sleep longer bc of the warmth and comfort and being able to hear your heartbeat just soothes them just like being in the womb but also remember that if baby sleeps with you they may get used to that and putting him down by himself may become more difficult. So if you do sleep together limit how often in happens. Make it a special treat :) though I know so much easier said than done bc it truly is the best feeling having a baby asleep on you.
Good luck and I hope you are able to get rest soon! Hopefully if baby eats well during the day than he will sleep better and longer at night. Hang in there!
Binky I'd say if you are exhausted go with the binky may not be a battle worth fighting right now. Babies suck to soothe themselves if you take binky away chances are you will get a thumb sucker. But there are some great binkys that are orthodontic approved. If you take binky away you will probably have a cranky baby on your hands for several days till he finds his thumb.
As for feeding sounds like cluster feeding may be starting. At approx 6 weeks some a little sooner babies hit a growth spurt. I wouldn't worry about over feeding you would know if he was full and eating bc it would come right back out the way it went in. Babies are funny like that.
I know that sleeping with baby is SO comfy and relaxing and heavenly and baby will sleep longer bc of the warmth and comfort and being able to hear your heartbeat just soothes them just like being in the womb but also remember that if baby sleeps with you they may get used to that and putting him down by himself may become more difficult. So if you do sleep together limit how often in happens. Make it a special treat :) though I know so much easier said than done bc it truly is the best feeling having a baby asleep on you.
Good luck and I hope you are able to get rest soon! Hopefully if baby eats well during the day than he will sleep better and longer at night. Hang in there!
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