Delivery day

[genamarie]

Am I the only one who honestly is thinking they would prefer to give birth alone (aside from the necessary hospital staff)?

I am going to be a single mom, the father of the baby hasn't even tried speaking to me since told him I was pregnant  when I was probably about a month along (I'm now 35 weeks and 4 days). Also I'm not comfortable with anyone in my family that I would actually even want in the room with me, not to mention the stress and drama majority cause. That and I don't really talk to any of my friends anymore, and don't trust or feel comfortable with the couple of friends I do still talk to.

Does anyone else feel they would rather do it alone?

[MommyDani01]

I see exactly where you are coming from..I wouldn't want anybody if I didn't have a supportive bf...I want him and at least my mom just because  young and want her with me since she has done it before..nothing wrong with doing it alone and I'm glad to see that your strong about it congrats

[genamarie]

I'm honestly thinking that is what I want to do, thanks ladies! I just feel like it will be a better experience for me to be in the room on my own during delivery. I am perfectly fine with doing it alone, I'm quite sure people will at least expect to be in the waiting room for me, which to an extent I don't really think I want all that much either just because I feel like I want that alone time, and privacy with me and my son when he gets here, and I don't want to be able to go through delivery alone like I want, and then after he's born for everyone to flood into the room and expect to see and hold him at the soonest opportunity. Being his mom, and going through so much during the pregnancy I want to be able to spend time with him before everyone else demands their time. lol I'm sure my family will say I'm being selfish, but I feel entitled to it. That and I see delivery now as a very private time, and a time where I want to be strong, and not stressed out, and not worried about what so and so will turn around and tell people about my delivery. It's my business, I just want to do it alone.

[mrs_araujo]

My SIL had her 3&4 child solo not sure why the 3rdone but the 4th one dad was in jail, i told her I'd be there for her if she wanted.  She said no i liked doing it alone last time because the nurses are so supportive! It was less stressful and she didn't want anyone that wasn't necessary to be i. There see her stuff lol

[nikkilee93]

I dont want anyone but my boyfriend in the room. I dont even want to call my family until i have gotten to spend time with the baby myself.

[Dlacey]

if I didnt have my boyfriend around I would want to be alone too

[2ndbaby77]

What about your mom?

[genamarie]

I've not thought about a doula, I have been through pregnancy complications including preterm labor since week 26, and also didn't know what it entailed in order to have one. I didn't know if it meant extra money to be spent also, as I'm running out of money to spend (haven't had an income since April as my leave of absence was messed up with work because of the complications, and didn't expect to leave so early, and work thinking about firing me.)

:( I've been in a lot of trouble lately. lol

[genamarie]

Yes, I know what you're talking about. I won't be "allowed" to be alone day of, as someone will be driving me there, and there's not a doubt in my mind that several phone calls will be made and who knows who all will show at the hospital, but I'd prefer to be in the delivery room alone.

[genamarie]

Oh my! It has been quite a long time! I know we have been in relatively similar boats! It's something I've been thinking about for a while, and after recent events, I'm leaning more towards doing it alone. I'm going to message you! :)

[ktlmg]

Have you thought about using a doula? I've heard great things about them.

[babydue07182013]

I was thinking about that the other day. I would rather be alone too but everyone in my family has told me to let them know when I go into labor so I know they'll all be up there

[ImDelicate]

Hey honey!!!! Long time no speak!!! I feel the same way! I don't want any of my family there and my baby's father is nothing but stress. I'm just debating if I want anyone there! So I know where your coming from.

[panderson]

the only person I want with me is my husband, im sure id want to do it alone if I didn't have him