How long did you wait before you told everyone?

[MayCat1102]

I'm 6 weeks & 6 days and haven't told mine or my fiance's family yet... how long did y'all wait to tell everyone?

[daniplusone2009]

Yeah, i think most people who have a m/c or two tend to not tell people about a new pregnancy because of the sadness that follows the previous m/c.  Especially when the news of you being pregnant spreads like wildfire (as expressed by steph_b).  I think once you experience that, you dont want to do it again.  And we protect ourselves.

I want to congratulate everyone on their pregnancies.  It is a special time indeed.  :-)

[Steph_b]

I didn't choose to tell people right away, but my fiance' told a close friend at 6 weeks and his friend let the new slit to other friends so everyone knew before I was 7 weeks,  I then went on to have a m/c around 9 weeks.  This was horrible because people I didn't even tell had to find out about the m/c and I never knew who knew about the m/c.  I was even approached at a friend birthday party by his mother asking me when I was due and stuff and had to tell her about the m/c.

Next time around I'm waiting as long as I can to tell people....

[Limonada]

With DS we told our family when I was about 10 weeks. This time, we waited until I was 13 weeks.  Both times, a few close friends knew earlier, but that's because our families live out of town - it's harder to hide it from people who see you more often!

[smjmekg]

I told them the day I got my positive blood results. Which was about 5 weeks.

[AuroraSage]

Wow, my story is the same.. I wonder if it's just us ladies that have had a mc that are now so cautious about telling..

I told a few people last time around 5 weeks and then mc'd by 6 weeks.. this time we told his parents (by mistake) around 9 weeks and certain workmates due to necessity a bit after that... but no announcements to anyone else until.. well.. not even yet & today is the 12 week mark.

Before that mark, I'd only tell people that you'd be comfortable telling about a mc.. just to be safe.

[Victoria01]

After my miscarriage last year I was scared to tell anyone. I waited until I was 12 weeks with this one.

[daniplusone2009]

i echo lance, I actually had 9 miscarriages (all before 6 weeks) before I was able to carry this pregnancy.  I am now 22 weeks preggo.  I learned sorta learned after about the first 2 miscarriages not to tell the world.  with this pregnancy, I actually was so used to miscarrying that I did not even want to test.  I just was waiting for the disappointment.  I didnt even test when my cycle was late.  i found out i was pregnant at almost 8weeks because I was in denial.  My dh and sister kept telling me.  I am saying this to say that, Its everyones personal choice when to tell the world.  I know that after miscarriage 5-8, I just never told my dh i was even preggo and I kinda regret it.  I dont regret much, but like the message above, it would have been nice to go through it with someone.  I was taking it personally, thinking about how my dh felt.  I know that he wants children, and felt inadequete to some extent.  After my last m/c, we talked and voila, i turned up preggo.

i think its a personal choice, but i beleive that even if you dont tell anyone else, i think its great that atleast your fiance knows.  and when the time is right, you will know.  :-)  

Congrats and the best of luck to you!!!!  :-)

[Lance06]

My first pregnancy I spilt the news to the world....only to lose our baby a week later. The next pregnancy I waited til I hit the 12 week mark. The only people who knew were my DH, my parents and his parents, bc I would have wnated their support if I had to go through another miscarriage. It is purely a personal decision. Some wait, others dont.

Congratulations!