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More DRAMA with my "mom"
I don't get along with my mom or my sister at all. They always gang up on me and all they do is say I think I'm better than them... No I choose to stay home with my kids and my husband instead of going and getting drunk and staying out until 3am every weekend. So I limit all of my contact with them both. Well they were at my gramdmas so I had to go pick up my two little ones from there and they both start with me on front of my boys. I just said this is why I don't talk to either one of you and my sister jumps up in my face and starts screaming at me. I was not going to fight nor argue back because my boys were in my truck. I came home and cried because o felt like I didn't even defend myself. I would never have let someone talk to me the way she just did. I have physically fought with both of them before and I'm not proud of it because I'm a mom and its very immature and I did not want the same thing to happen. I'm also 21 weeks pregnant and I feel that's why they did it. Im not going to put my baby in harms way for them. I just feel like crap. I stay away from them so I don't have to listen to their gossip and still its like my name gets dragged thru it either way. She acts like she does nothing wrong and ahe wasn't even there for us when we were little she was always doing drugs and had guys coming I'm and out. My husband says its because she's jealous because at my age ahe already had 4 kids from 4 different guys and didn't even have a place to live. I don't know what I did so wrong for her to hate me this much. It's sad....
That's the same way my mom is. And in the mind of an addict they do no wrong because they're high all the time and it makes them think they're on top of the world. She will realize what she's done one day and it will be to late.
:( I'm sorry, I definitely understand the mama drama, my mom is a pilled out junkie and we rarely speak. I hope things look up for you, just don't let them get you down!!
Its so hard to accept and took me a long time. Actually I really never will honestly. It hurts.
But it gets easier the more they mess up.
And that's just it I'm a great mom and so are you we learned that from going threw everything a mom shouldn't do.
In a strange way they helped us.
I'm really glad you have a mother figure though.
That's all you can do is your best. And ignore their judgment because its truly unimportant.
We can never change them and its such a burden on your heart trying to figure out why they are the way they are.
But its better to try not to dwell on it. And let it be. I have spent so much time wasted crying over my mother.
My husband and children now fill that void :)
But it gets easier the more they mess up.
And that's just it I'm a great mom and so are you we learned that from going threw everything a mom shouldn't do.
In a strange way they helped us.
I'm really glad you have a mother figure though.
That's all you can do is your best. And ignore their judgment because its truly unimportant.
We can never change them and its such a burden on your heart trying to figure out why they are the way they are.
But its better to try not to dwell on it. And let it be. I have spent so much time wasted crying over my mother.
My husband and children now fill that void :)
Thank you both so much. It's like she showed me the kind of mother I've never wanted to be. It's just sad the only woman I can really share my pregnancy with is my mother in law. Yes she's a butt sometimes but she's here for me when I need her and helps me if I have a problem. She doesn't treat me any different than she does her own daughters. She's a little irresponsible but she is never mean to me. We go get our nails done, go shopping and go out to eat together. I could never do things like that with my mom. She is just so ugly towards me. I wish it wasn't this way and I wish I could share my pregnancy with her and I can't. I try my best to be a good mom and a good wife and I'm so thankful for what I have and we work hard to have the life we do. I really appreciate all of your kind words. This is reallly the only socializing I do lol.
Unfortunately hubby is right.
My mother is like this in every way. Same back story to. But acts like she never did any of it. And I have no idea! Like really I lived it. I also have a mother in law who is jealous.
Her and my mother gang up on me all the time. And yes I have beaten the crap out of them but it got me no were. Their still the same.
And always will be.
I recently cut ties completely with my mother because she had the nedasity to give her ex bf who sexually abused me as a child my phone number! I had to get cops involved so he would leave me alone :/
Why would a mother do that.
Your the bigger person.
And for what it is worth from all your posts and help you seem like an amazing person and mother with a good positive life. She should be jealous!
You just continue to leave them out of your life because a good person like you needs no one to try and bring them down!
My mother is like this in every way. Same back story to. But acts like she never did any of it. And I have no idea! Like really I lived it. I also have a mother in law who is jealous.
Her and my mother gang up on me all the time. And yes I have beaten the crap out of them but it got me no were. Their still the same.
And always will be.
I recently cut ties completely with my mother because she had the nedasity to give her ex bf who sexually abused me as a child my phone number! I had to get cops involved so he would leave me alone :/
Why would a mother do that.
Your the bigger person.
And for what it is worth from all your posts and help you seem like an amazing person and mother with a good positive life. She should be jealous!
You just continue to leave them out of your life because a good person like you needs no one to try and bring them down!
Your husband is probably right that your mom is jealous but she should be happy for you that you are doing better than she was at your age! A mother should never be jealous of her daughter. Don't feel bad because you feel like you didn't defend yourself. You were being the adult in the situation and thinking about your children just like a good mother would. It's just really sad this is your family treating you this way. Luckily you have your hubby and your kids, and that's really all you need. <3
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