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Scared, Sleepless, and Sacrificing
I am only seven weeks pregnant and it still hasn't kicked in yet. My boyfriend and I found out together after my period was a few days late. At first he was very supportive emotionally and even told me that he would support me if I chose to keep it. I have never supported abortion so in my mind... in nine months we're going to be parents. Now, everything has changed. He doesn't want the baby and has told me many reasons why abortion would be the best choice for us. I fought him for weeks about it. I told him I would feel guilty for life if I abort our baby. Long story short I was so exhausted with the fighting and overwhelmed having no one to talk to that o agrees to do it. I have rescheduled the appointment twice and now the appointment is five hours away. I am so scared. I don't want to do this, but I also don't want to raise a baby alone while I am still in college. What should I do? I've been up all night.
Thank you for the advice :) I'm keeping my baby.. my boyfriend broke up with me last night saying, "I'd rather kill myself then do this.. I will see or hear from you when you want child support b***h" and although that broke my heart I also feel a bit relieved. Now I can be stress free and put all of my attention into my baby whom I can't wait to hold ♥ xxx
I just got off of the phone with my boyfriend... he's not taking my decision well at all. He said we will talk more tomorrow. He keeps saying I wanted this to happen and the reason I'm keeping it is because I wanted a baby... he doesn't understand that I never wanted this to happen and I never wanted a baby until I was married and ready. But it has happened and I do want my baby. Our baby didn't ask to be here its our fault and I want to take responsibility and take care of him or her. Uggghhh this is so frustrating!!!!
Awee yay!! You made the best choice! (In my opinion) I am sooo happy you chose to be his or her voice and keep it! I pray your boyfriend realizes it's a blessing! And I waited until I was over 12 weeks to tell my family. That's when the chances of miscarriage go down. :)
Awww thanks xxx! :) This app is amazing I'm really glad to be apart of it. I love him/her already too :) and I'm glad I finally found the strength to stick up for my little munchkin (:
I am so happy you I canceled I wish I could reach through my phone and hug you. I have noticed that this app is a wonderful place to go for support. Keep your head up momma you have a baby already loving you on the inside!!!!
I want to thank you all for all of the support. You were all so helpful... now I just need to figure out how and when to tell my family. Thanks again and congrats to you all!
You made the right choice in keeping your baby. I got pregnant at 17 and my bf at the time wanted me to get an abortion also because of his parents. I chose to keep my baby I'm now a proud mother of a wonderful 4 year old and expecting my second baby. This time around everything is different things are looking great. At first its hard but nothing is impossible and if your bf decides to leave it's his loss and you WILL be able to do it on your own. Your baby will give you all the strength you need trust me.
Blessings your way.
Blessings your way.
If your boyfriend doesn't support your decision, it's his loss anyway. No matter what he says you'll have a beautiful baby in within the next 7 or 8 months. Some people can't even have kids and you can. Just think of the positive things like that
I'm so glad you cancelled! You have to stick up for your baby even if no one else does. Baby's are blessings! I freaked out when I found out I was pregnant 7 weeks ago because I wanted to be married first. But you know what, I'm 23 with one semester of college left so I have faith that I will be a good Mom. I'll still get married, just after the baby. My Mom had me at 16. It was extremely hard but she raised me to be happy && confident with myself. I'm keeping my baby no matter what anyone else thinks. What's meant to be will be:)
I think ur decision was the best and believe or not god will help you through this daddy or no daddy and bless you with such a wonderful child ! Godbless you hun! And good luck !
I ended up canceling the appointment and I have decided to stick up for my baby. I have to be his or hers voice and I am prepared to do that.... telling my boyfriend that is going to be the difficult part. He just doesn't understand.
I hope you didn't do it based off a scum bag it was all fun in games while he was in bed with you.. mine told me to get an abortion and I told him to **** off.. haven't talked to him since I was 5 weeks pregnant and I'm now 34 weeks... I would never kill my baby because some ******* doesn't wanna have him or her or be there that's basically murder it's and I told living being just like you and I.... and most importantly you will live with this decision the rest of your life while he goes about his day like nothing ever happened..... it's not fair to you nor your baby.... they feel it too
Im in the same boat as you. My boyfriend was very supportive at the begining then he started saying i should get an aboration and i refused to. Im having the baby and he is so angry with me that we havent talked in weeks. Im 9 weeks pregnant and were no longer together, i completely get where your coming from. If you dont want to get an aboration dont do it. If you think you will feel guilty for the rest of your life i wouldnt. But it is completely up to you. Your the one carrying the baby not your boyfriend. If you go through it just because he wants it you will resent him for the rest of your life. Dont put yourself in a position that you dont want to do. Hope everything works out for you.
Honestly if you're not comfortable with the idea of an addition now you won't be when you're sitting in the waiting room. And if you go through with it just because it's what he wants you will resent him and the relationship won't last. Boyfriends come and go but your baby will always be there for you.
Please do not go through with that decision based on what he wants. If you want that baby, you keep it. If he doesn't, well, he can leave. Do not let him guilt you into it. You will regret it the rest of your life if you do it for ANYONE but yourself. I think you already know you shouldn't, and I hope you find the strength to have this baby with or without him. It will definitely be challenging, no doubt. But you can do it <3 if it is best for you, then go through with it. But if he's just being selfish, please do not go through with it. What happens if you abort and then he leaves you? Then you did it for nothing, and you'll be even more heartbroken. One day you will find a man to love you and your baby the way you deserve. Love is not selfish, and he's being extremely selfish by guilting you into abortion. That is not a healthy relationship.
And everything will be okay! We all know that you don't want to do it because you are having doubts! Don't do it because you feel it will save the argument because it isn't up to anyone else it's up to you!x
I've been losing sleep over it because I know I don't want to do it... I've been up all night and I'm suppose to be up and ready in an hour but instead I just want to stay in bed and hold my belly and tell my baby everything is going to be okay :'(
If you're already feeling bad about getting it then don't do it. You're going to regret it for the rest of your life. Sometimes guys back out bc of their own fears but he might get used to the idea of having a baby.
Dnt do it. If you have any tiny doubt never go throu wit it. . I tried for 4 years to get pregnant. There such a blessing. Really tink about it. If you don't have the funds to look after a baby or are yourself havin doubts there are other options they aborting ur baby!! There is adoption. If you go throu wit this and have regret you could go down a very dark road of guilt. Please tink about it. And ur partner is a disgrace. Don't let him wants shadow wat you want!!! I'l say prayer for you luv hope all works out
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