Taken too soon!

[krushing]

After bleeding very heavily and 4 hours at the ER, I was told that I am miscarrying.  It's very hard to understand and believe this when just Tuesday we saw the baby and the heartbeat and was told everything looked good.  I've played the last few days over in my head wondering if I did something I shouldn't have.  But, I can't think of anything.  This is a second loss for me.  The first was a blighted ovum and nothing formed.  I had a D&C because my body wouldn't expell it.  This time, I had a baby.  And you can't get the picture of you passing your own baby out of your head very easily.  I do know you shouldn't question God, but why does this happen?  Why do people that can't take care of their kids get to have them and two people that want kids can't.  What did I do that so awful that my baby was taken away for the second time?  My husband wants to try again as soon as possible, but I don't think I honestly can.  I'm scared of this happening again for the third time.

[chantal21]

Oh I am so sorry sweetie! I understand what you are going through. I've lost 2 babies and with the second I had an u/s and was told everything was perfect....I know God knows what it is best for us, but it's not easy to understand why things like this happen to us who so dearly want a precious baby. I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but I know I can't. But I want you to know that you are in my prayers and I pray that you will have a baby soon! I was blessed this time around and never thought in a million years it would happen. Don't give up, but give yourself time to heal. Just because it happened twice, doesn't mean it will happen again. That's what everyone said to me and it gave me some hope to try again, even though it was hard. ((((HUGS))))  <3

[kazwel]

I am so sorry for your loss.  There are no words that can make you feel better, but please know that my thoughts are with you

Kazwel

[BTS1022]

I am very sorry for your loss, with time it will get easier to accept the fact that you had misscarried. 9 times out of 10 the baby is lost due to chromosomal issues. I had lost my first child due to a genetic order. I carried her for 33 weeks, and thought I was having a healthy normal baby, until I had actually gave birth. She lived for 45 minutes or so after birth and then passed.

Either way, losing a child is very hard, but I assure you, you didnt do anything wrong to have caused the loss. It has been 6 years since I had lost my daughter, and I still to this day cry when I think about her. In time you learn to accept it, just remember even though you have lost this child, doesn't mean that it isn't still with you. Your a mother to this baby no matter if it was lost due to a miscarriage or delivered healthy at full term.

I wish you the best.

[DaniWants1More]

I am truly sorry for your loss and I know how you feel I struggled with trying again. I really didnt think I could handle another loss.  Its hard to when your hubby is really wanting you to try again ,mine was like that.  I told myself after a few weeks that I am not alone in this marriage and I should really consider him.  Gosh it was hard, but then I realized I really wanted to have a baby too.  Well we decided to try again but we agreed that if we loss this one that was it. talking about it and making that decission made it easier. I wish you the best,  and again I'm so sorry for your loss. ~d

[krushing]

lidalbit: Thank you for your kind words.

jennifer0515: Thank you too.  Yes, they did an two ultrasounds and couldn't find anything.

[jennifer0515]

I am so so sorry for your loss, I can't imagine what you are going through! I wish this didn't have to happen to such a deserving couple! Remember, GOD wont give you anything you can't handle!...But when you were at the ER, did they happen to do a Ultrasound just to confirm the Miscarriage?

[lidalbit]

Krushing, I'm so VERY sorry to hear about this. You just about had me in tears. I can't imagine. I will say a prayer for you. I wish I had better words to say to make you feel better. but it will get easier in time and i really hope you can try again.