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Tubal Ligation
My husband and I keep going back and forth about wether or not I should have my tubes tied. Anyone else in this situation??
Exactly! I love the big family especially christmas and thanksgiving its so fun. Id love for my kids to come home with all of there kids one day. But i know exactly what you mean!
And the biggest reason i dont want to tie them is I have 2 boys and one on the way and only 1 daughter i would love to give her a sister. my sister and i are best friends ( i think if wer had to live together we'd kill eachother lol) and i would love to give my little girl that.
Thats why im not sure but im going to get some kind of birth control i dont have to mess with most likely im going to go with one of the IUD's not sure which one yet but ill figure it out lol. I was on the pill and got pregnant 2xs and my hubby told me "obviously the pill doesnt work for you" so if im going to get on birth control i guess he wants it to be something that wont have any suprises until were ready....again lol
This is a very very serious decision my hubby asked me but i am not sure i want to be done with out family so i told him if thats what he wants for him to get it done. I am pretty straight foward you are young you might change your mind. I wouldnt do it just my opinion tho :)
Could very well be, haha. You could talk to your doctor about all different kinds of birth controls. The Paragard is just the longest lasting (which is why I opted for it personally) and non-hormonal. There's also the implant which lasts for 3 years and Mirena which is good for 5 years. Then there's patches, pills, the shot, the ring, condoms....you get the idea. Good luck!
O ok im going to talk to my doc when i go back on the 22nd. Maybe it was his imagination. FYI she had it taken out in Feb and by March she was preg. so maybe it was an excuse lol.
You don't feel the actual IUD as it sits far up into your uterus and a man can not reach that far. You can only feel it if it slips out of place. He might feel the strings though, and these can be cut shorter if needed.
Im definitly going to talk to my doctor about it. I wrote the name down lol. My sister-in-law had and IUD and when they would have sex she told me my brother in law wanted her to have it taken out..she said he could feel it and it would "cut" him?? idk if this can happen. but im going tonfind out all of the onfo from my doctor for sure.
Try going for the Paragard IUD. It lasts for 10 years, has no hormones-so it won't screw with your body- and is easily reversed. The only drawback is it might make your periods more heavy, but this doesn't happen to all women. I chose to have that versus sterilization. I don't want more children, but I'm only 21 and I don't know how I'll feel when we're in our 30's.
You are absolutely right. It is selfish. I dont mind having a tubali just dont feel right doing it right now becasue even the vasectomy would make it permanent that i couldnt have another child with him, unless he had it reversed. Im thinking about getting the IUD but im not sure yet. I dont want to do anything permanent. I guess its going to need alot more thought. I hope everything goes well for you with all of your goals.
why don't you then get the implant as it's called in the UK. The doctors put something inside your arm not sure what it's called and you keep it in for 5 years, it then gets taken out and put into the other arm for another 5 years. This then will stop you from conceiving and also give you time to think whether or not you really want to go through with the tubal.
Personally i think your husband is being a little selfish, i need IVF to conceive and i am PETRIFIED of needles i watched my partner have blood taken as he is a blood donor and i would love to do it, i took a panic attack and was crying my eyes out and it wasn't even me doing it. But, because i am stopping my partner from becoming a dad due to my problems i am going to have the IVF once i lose weight, i'm freaking out about it but i know it has to be done. The fact you have given birth to 4 of his children the least he could have done was have a vasectomy after all the pain you have gone through in labour and faced his fears.
Personally i think your husband is being a little selfish, i need IVF to conceive and i am PETRIFIED of needles i watched my partner have blood taken as he is a blood donor and i would love to do it, i took a panic attack and was crying my eyes out and it wasn't even me doing it. But, because i am stopping my partner from becoming a dad due to my problems i am going to have the IVF once i lose weight, i'm freaking out about it but i know it has to be done. The fact you have given birth to 4 of his children the least he could have done was have a vasectomy after all the pain you have gone through in labour and faced his fears.
And the vasectomy isnt a choice for him. He hates hospitals and doctors. it kills him to go for physicals once a year lol
See I dont want to do it and regret it later. Im only 23yrs yes its my fourth child but what if when im 30 i want another? Hes looking at how bad the economy is right now and I agree with him. Financially there is no problem for us, but i guess hes looking at how expensive things are getting and how bad there going to get with the economy. I honestly feel that if i do it i would totally regret it later when i really want to have another child.
i would be encouraging him to have a vasectomy as it's not as dangerous as a tubal ligation and it's easier to reverse if you do decide in the future you would like to have children. I would really think about what you are doing as for you there may be no turning back, good luck :)
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I am pregnant with my second and my husband is already threatening a vasectomy - I sort of want one more...maybe..we'll see after this one..haha. But, my husband says now that we will have one boy and one girl, that's enough. Plus, he brings up the economical point too - he wants to make sure we can support them and send them to college, etc, so, he doesn't want to have a lot of kids that we wouldn't be able to support financially. But, we are both from big families and at times it's fun to have a lot of siblings, not ALL the time - haha - glad we don't all live together now - but it is nice.
But, back to your situation - I still say either your husband gets vasectomy or you opt for a less permanent option for the time being. Best of luck to you! :-)