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Tying tubes
Okay I've been arguing with my mother about tying my tubes. I personally don't want to but my mother keeps telling me that I need to. But now its to the point that she is bothering me so much I might just do it to shut her up. But I don't want to. I won't feel complete if I know I can't have kids. What if I want another one in 5 years or so. How do I deal with this? Because its just getting on my nerves now.
I am a witness of the regret afterwards dont do iit I jad 3 ectopic pg after I did mine and lost the left tube I got a tubal reversal 8 yrs later and am now 8months pg I went through hell I will always regret it but now im whole again after paying over 5000 for a total cost of the reversal I got married to someone.with no kids and felt horrible sometimes people havekids pass away and no chance unless u do ivf or tubal reversal
To me it looks like it just jinxed their marriages! Since you are doing so great with raising your family dont do it!
Im married for 6 & 1/2 years. We both work and this will be our 5th bby. Never had complications but having them 2 weeks late. The thing with my family is they they always listen to their mother and have no say so. And sorry but we take care of all our kids and we are just fine with having another. Everyone in my family tied them after the 4th bby. And they want me to follow. They believe strongly in that a man will leave and leave all the kids with you. But just because it happen to them doesnt mean it will to me. I refuse to live my life alone like them. Marriages are hard and never easy but im not going to let someone put in my head all men are bad because they are not. My husband married me with 3 kids took on the responsibility because their bio father doesnt do crap for them. This is our second child together but will have 5 together. this is why they want me to have them tied. because a man can leave. So what a woman can too. Just like my brother and his kids she left them and never came back. But I already talked to her and shes not happy but she said fine.
Why does your mother want you to tie your tubes? If she has a legitimate reason(having another baby is dangerous to your health, you already have a few of kids and can't afford another, etc), then you may want to take her thoughts into consideration. Otherwise, this is a decision you and your significant other have to make(if you are in a relationship), not your mom's decision. If your mom only wants you to be safe from unintended pregnancies, then look into getting an IUD or another type of long term birth control that is not permanent and tell your mom about that as something you would rather do instead of having your tubes tied. Just don't alienate your mom. Your mom loves you and is doing what she thinks would be best for you, so talk to her and explain your reasoning as well.
Don't make this decision for anyone but YOURSELF. It's your body, just like they are your kids. Not your moms :). I always ask my patients - "Are you 100% sure that you are okay with never having another baby?" before having them sign the consent forms for a tubal. Not because I want to be harsh or try to talk them out of it, but I just want to be real with them and make sure they know that its a sterilization procedure. While you can have the surgery to reverse it, there is a very low chance that it would be successful. Good luck!
DO NOT DO IT!! If there is any doubt in your mind do not go through with it. It will be something you will regret for the rest of your life. I am 24 and have been married for 6 yrs and together with my DH for 10. When I was pregnant with my 4th he wantedme to tie my tubes. I was back and forth for weeks about it. I felt as though I would be depriving myself of something as a woman I wasn't done with yet. I want another baby in 10 years or so and if not I can always have them tied later. He agreed that as long as I got something semi-permanent he was fine with it. So I got the Implanon. If there is any doubt in your mind don't do it. Every woman that I talked to said they regretted their decision. I did not want to be one of them.
And as long as you are being responsible and taking care of your children what difference does it make if you tie your tubes or not to your mother??
And as long as you are being responsible and taking care of your children what difference does it make if you tie your tubes or not to your mother??
Dont get them done if you dont want to, you have to treat it as permanent , tell your mum in the nicest possible way to mind her own business, its up to you how many children you want/handle and you would prefer it if she would keep her lips zipped so to speak :)
if its not what u want to dont do it i was in ur shoes when i 27 and my mom did the same thing to me cause she didnt want me to have another child with my at the time bf.well i did what she wanted and i hate it now cause i want another child and i may never be able to have one hoping that since its been 14 years maybe they will grow back
Lol your right. My mother is just as pushy and hardheaded as I am. But I know once I do that my grandma is gettin in t and that lady is worse than both of us. Lol.
Dont do it just to please ur mother! Its YOUR body, and you can whatever you want with it. What if you do want another baby? Then what? Dont do it especially if you feel that you wont feel like a woman. I know what that feels like... I dont get periods and am struggling to have a baby.
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