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Very Pissed, Black names/White names...Is there a such thing?
Ladies check this out, this really pissed me off:
I'm a Black female named Amy, yes its rare but we do exsist! LOL My husband is named Patrick which I guess can go either way. My question is; is there a such thing as a black name and a white name? My neighbor that lives above me (white lady) asked "oh have you picked out a name yet?" I told her the only thing we've been able to come up with so far has been Chancellor. She looked at me and said "that's a white name isnt it?" I was so offended that I gave her a snotty look and walked off. She spoke to me again this morning but I didnt even speak back. As I think about it, it seems kind of silly, and because I'm bigger than the bullsh*t I will speak to her again but I do feel the need to ask her what makes a name a color? Do any of you ladies know?
I'm a Black female named Amy, yes its rare but we do exsist! LOL My husband is named Patrick which I guess can go either way. My question is; is there a such thing as a black name and a white name? My neighbor that lives above me (white lady) asked "oh have you picked out a name yet?" I told her the only thing we've been able to come up with so far has been Chancellor. She looked at me and said "that's a white name isnt it?" I was so offended that I gave her a snotty look and walked off. She spoke to me again this morning but I didnt even speak back. As I think about it, it seems kind of silly, and because I'm bigger than the bullsh*t I will speak to her again but I do feel the need to ask her what makes a name a color? Do any of you ladies know?
I know what you mean. We are white...well mostly anyhow. We just found out that we are having a baby girl this weekend and when we told my mother in law her name or Rozlyn Zakiah she said it sounded black. I don't get it!!! I am so with you! Sorry that happened to you! I hate that!
aww. some people speak before they think about what they are saying & if it makes any sense or not. We are all guilty of saying something totally stupid at times....
as far as black names or white names??? depending on what part of the country you were raised in, different ideas about race & names were pumped into you head. Sometimes it is hard to put aside & forget all that conditioning that your brain grew up with.
As for myself.... I have lived in small rural farm-type communities most of my life. Where I live now has a LOT of Amish & Mennonite families. I myself have no organized religion. I have not been exposed to a lot of different cultures, races & religions. I guess I have lived in a pretty sheltered world because I forget that things as simple as name steriotypes still exists. Help break this way of thinking & NAME THAT BEAUTIFUL CHILD ANYTHING YOU PLEASE!
as far as black names or white names??? depending on what part of the country you were raised in, different ideas about race & names were pumped into you head. Sometimes it is hard to put aside & forget all that conditioning that your brain grew up with.
As for myself.... I have lived in small rural farm-type communities most of my life. Where I live now has a LOT of Amish & Mennonite families. I myself have no organized religion. I have not been exposed to a lot of different cultures, races & religions. I guess I have lived in a pretty sheltered world because I forget that things as simple as name steriotypes still exists. Help break this way of thinking & NAME THAT BEAUTIFUL CHILD ANYTHING YOU PLEASE!
My name is Dache' (Day-sh-uh) and you would not believe how many people think I am Black when my name is just a combination of my parents names. First 2 of my Fathers (David) and the first 3 of my Mothers (Cheryl). I finally had to attach a photo to my email signature so people would stop calling me "a sister"! And believe me, I'm about as pale as they get. lol. I agree with most women in this discussion. There are no such things as Black or White or Hispanic names. Most cultures have names that are more common such as Jose, Jammal, or David but to date I have never seen a rule book that says you cant name your baby whatever you want.
Names have certain connotations. For example, from where i'm from, if someone told you about their friend elizabeth, most poeple would probably imagine them to be talking about a white person. If, however, that same person was talking about their friend Leeroy, you would probably imagine them to be black. It doesn't mean that a person can't or shouldnt be named Elizabeth if theyre black (or Leeroy if they're white), it just means that in my experience, they usually aren't
We all have expectations and associations connected with things in the world, and so don't be annoyed with your neighbour because her expectations differ from yours, granted she probably should have thought about what she was saying before she said it. Just accept that she's probably just a bit ignorant of other peoples views and feelings and move on with your life. I doubt she intended to cause you offence.
We all have expectations and associations connected with things in the world, and so don't be annoyed with your neighbour because her expectations differ from yours, granted she probably should have thought about what she was saying before she said it. Just accept that she's probably just a bit ignorant of other peoples views and feelings and move on with your life. I doubt she intended to cause you offence.
Your neighbor is ignorant. The world is full of people just like her. The media and how slow the world is to evolve regarding race and ethnicities helps to further the stereotypes like the one your neighbor believes (i.e., that there is such a thing as a "Black name").
I'd advise you to ignore her and other people like her because it's not the last time you'll hear comments like that. As a matter of fact, the next time someone says something like that, if you don't like it and can actually stand to have the conversation, engage them in the reason behind why he or she believes there is such a thing as a Black name. Maybe then you will understand from where that person's ignorance comes.
I'd advise you to ignore her and other people like her because it's not the last time you'll hear comments like that. As a matter of fact, the next time someone says something like that, if you don't like it and can actually stand to have the conversation, engage them in the reason behind why he or she believes there is such a thing as a Black name. Maybe then you will understand from where that person's ignorance comes.
People are ignorant as everybody here has summed up pretty good.. my husband and I wanted to name our daughter jasmine and everybody we knew told us that is a "black name" somebody even went and found a magazine with a cutie little black baby in it named jasmine.. guess what our daughter's name is jasmine.. we liked it... dont' care what other people say.. and even if it is a "black girl" name.. so what! I also get **** about my youngest daughter who we nick named baby girl because she was the baby girl and my other 2 kids couldn't pronounce her real name (felicity) who cares what people say! if you like it go for it!
Wow, it just shows how ignorant people are. I grew up in a area that had African Americans say things like that about my siblings and I (they said mines was the blackest out of all of ours) My sisters are Rachel,Cathy,and Roxane and I am Tasia so yeah. Don't let it get to you, people will do and say some dumb things just explain and go on with your life.
I love the name you've chosen - I agree with the other ladies that if you and your DH like the name that's all that matters. But please - EDUCATE and enlighten your neighbor that what she said was offensive! She will likely repeat offensive comments (perhaps unknowingly) to someone else! I have a student (who is African/American) who's name is Confidence - I love that too!
I don't beleive that there is such a thing as black and white names. I come from a very mixed family, my mom is white and I was raised with a black step father all my siblings are mixed and our names are all diffrent as my mom says. Mine is Tabitha, my half brothers are Paris and Dominique, my half sister is Erica (not so uncommen anymore) I have 2 step brother named Perry and Harrison. I have been commenly mistaken for being black befor I met the person just because of my name! Thats just crazy! My step father picked the name from the show Bewitched that was popular around the time I was born and than there is Tabitha Stephens the porn star... she's white. My oldest son has a cute little girl in his class named Tabitha...she's black! So what ever! I dont think that a name should define a race but the person. I like a lot of unique names and I think Chancellor is a beautiful name. Dont listen to your nosey neighbor, although I am kinda curious to what she thinks you should name your child:)p
Good luck with your baby and the name game!
Good luck with your baby and the name game!
I think the name is BEAUTIFUL...name that sweet baby what you want and ingnore people like that. My son's name is Jeremiah and I have met both black and white childern with his name....as you do with most biblical names. Do what makes you happy, as for the lady upstairs I would say she is ignorant and probably didn't mean to offend you, she was probably too stupid to realise that her comment was uncalled for.
I am multiracial as well, and if there were such things as black names, asian names, white names, do you know what a hard time my parents would've had naming me...I'm Japanese, Mexican, and Black...and my name is Miko, it's Japanese. I knew one girl who was like "Miko...I used to think that was a ghetto Black name till I met you." There's still alot of ignorant people out there, it's just sad.
Obviously this woman has come into the 21st century yet...I say let her remarks slide in one ear and out the other and name your child anything you please.
That is just crazy!! I am half black and half white.....what do you name children who are bi-racial then?? lol. =) I like the name you picked out. It doesn't matter what race you are. That is just awful for someone to say that. Hopefully she will come to her senses. =)
I live in a very diverse city full of african-americans, muslims, asians---white people are the minority here. And I know young black girls named Ashley or Joann. And then I know young black boys named Akukarach and Jugbear (juh-bear) and Sunday. A lot of our youth group kids are from the Sudan and they have Sudanese names and they also have American names (like Joe, Bob, Frank, etc.) that they go by.
So you see, while most of the time it is a culture thing, it doesn't make it wrong to choose any name you want! I don't think Chancellor sounds white or black. It just sounds sophisticated, no skin color attached!
So you see, while most of the time it is a culture thing, it doesn't make it wrong to choose any name you want! I don't think Chancellor sounds white or black. It just sounds sophisticated, no skin color attached!
id slap that lady in the mouth :) haha but thats just me!!.. i think some names you hear more commonly among certain races, BUT i do not believe that a name is any certain "race"..as long as you like the name, thats all that matters!!! ugh that woman needs a reality check thats for sure..and i like your name you have picked out..very very cute!!! if we have a boy we have the name Alex Xander Neal(neals the last name)..i dont really care for the alexander, so i said why dont we split it up and get a first and middle out of it...makes it easier on me..LOL
my SIL just had a lil girl in august and she named her diamond capri...a few people told her that they thouhgt it sounded more like a black name, which i thought was very offensive, i dont think it matters as long as you like the name , personally i love it, it's different that's all!!! i think chancellor is a beautiful name, if i have a lil girl i plan to name her Khloe Delayne just because i have never heard of Delayne before...as for a boys name probably Keaton or Kyler. pick as you please, dont mind those nossy neighbors.
i agree there is no such thing as black and white names....it drives me nuts because people have said that to me before about certain names as well, more so saying its a spanish name. I just think its crazy and you should choose whatever name you feel will fit your baby best. People also assume that names are ugly because they are different, different doesn't = ugly
i too am black and there are names that are common for a certain group of people than others. but if you like it thats all that matters and don't get offended by someones own opionion if thats what you feel you want to name your baby boy then go right on ahead. it kind of grows on you though i like it.
There is no such thing as black and white names. That woman needs to have a reality check and quit living in the 50's. I cant stand stupid people like that. Yes, there are different origins of many different names, but that DOES NOT make it one nationality or black or white. I am so sorry you have such a closed minded woman living upstairs from you. Pick and keep whatever name YOU like and YOU want. Ignore the dumb lady upstairs. :-) Smile, you are having a baby!!!
I wanted to name my first daughter Maegan Desire'e, but my , thankgoodness EX, said it sounded black. Where he got that idea, I don't know. But he would probably get along real well with your neighbor. The fact is Desire'e is French, and if I'm not mistaken that is a nationality, NOT a race. Some people are so ignorant. I AM naming this baby Chere'e Desire'e. Infact it was my husband of 3 yrs idea to name her that. Chere'e is after my mom. My daughter will carry her name proudly. You should name your baby whatever you like and I think Chancellor is a wonderful name. If you and this neighbor also have a freindship, I would express to her how she made you feel. Maybe it just came off wrong. I have a Hispanic brother-in-law that we can joke like that. Maybe she thought ya'll were that close. If ya'll aren't, then maybe she would be a waiste of your time. Either way, I would let her know how you feel.
There's no such think as "black names" or "white names" but some names tend to be attributed to one culture over another. My daughter's name is Elaina and a LOT of hispanic people always say, "Oh we know a lot of Elena's! It's a Spanish name."
I've looked her name up and it is actually more French, but that is besides the point. Your neighbor was VERY rude and I think you should call her out on it. Atia was right, there's no rules for names! Pick what YOU want!!!
I've looked her name up and it is actually more French, but that is besides the point. Your neighbor was VERY rude and I think you should call her out on it. Atia was right, there's no rules for names! Pick what YOU want!!!
I don't think there are white names and black names. Obviously, there are names that are more commonly associated with certain races though. I know someone named Shanequa, and I must say, I've never met a white person with that name. But ther aren't rules about it, that's for sure. I think Chancellor is a beautiful name. . . white, black, asian, whatever. :-D
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