When do I tell people Im pregnant?

Question

I got BFPs on three pregnancy tests, starting Monday night. My OBGYN says Im about 4 weeks along. She won't see me until Nov. 20 -- said the positive HPT is enough and I dont need an immediate blood test.
Anyway, this is my first child. I know miscarriages happen mostly in the first 12 weeks, so I'm afraid to tell people. Ive told DH (obviously), my best friend, and my mom, but no one else. I told my DH to not tell anyone yet. But, now I'm wondering is it OK to tell his parents and a few people? How long do people wait before telling people close to them?

Thanks!  Heather

Joshs_Angels · Answer

The first time I was pregnant, we told people right away, and it ended in m/c also (I was 8w1d). I'm pregnant again now and we were going to wait until 12 weeks passed (since the odds of m/c goes down greatly after that point) but my doctor took me out of work due to some bleeding so we had no choice but to tell everyone now. Today I'm 9w2d...couldnt hold in the news but hopefully everything will be fine this time! Its all about letting the news out when you're comfortable.

GRose · Answer

I told my family and friends within a week or two. I felt like if the the pregnancy ended in a miscarriage I would want my family and friends to be there for me, not wondering why I was sad.

JoyRenee · Answer

All three pregnancies told everyone within a week of finding out. One ended in miscarriage of the three. I think telling close family is a good idea, especially so they can be happy with you! Don't live in fear of something that may not happen. If you want to, tell! It's your choice!

abbieball · Answer

I told everyone right away with my first and same with my second. my first ended in m/c and we found out we were pregnant when we found out we were pregnant the second time so there was no sad time. but if it is going to happen it is if you tell people or not wouldn't you rather have others support then deal with it by your self.

jennymay · Answer

My first pregnancy I shouted it from the rooftops the day I found out!! Sadly, that ended in m/c at about 6 weeks, and it was extremely hard to 'un-tell' everyone. This time around we waited until I was about 8 weeks and had seen the heartbeat before we told close friends and family, and then 12 weeks until we told everyone else. I am now almost 19 weeks, and everything is going great!! 

Good luck to you and a happy, healthy 9 months!

martikadragoon · Answer

I announced it the day I found out. :) I now have my little boy TJ sleeping on the couch a few feet away from me. (9 w. old!)

richeygirl · Answer

I agree with everyone, we do things different. I didn't start telling anyone entil I was 2 mths.

michelle148 · Answer

Its entirely up to you and your DH when you tell people. Dont feel you have to tell people and also dont feel that you dont want to say anything in case anything goes wrong think positive and enjoy your pregnancy. Sit down and discuss with DH what he thinks about it

Lance06 · Answer

Its a complete personal preference. I announced my first pregnancy as soon as I found out to have it end in m/c, so we waited 14 weeks this time around.
Once you hit the 12 week mark, the percentage of carrying full term goes up greatly!

best wishes and congratulations!

kikicoates78 · Answer

I always announced early, this time i did wait for doubling beta's only b/c of M/C last year. but if you have no history girl I would be screaming it out!!!

krushing · Answer

It's definitely a personal preference when to tell.  With my first and second pregnancies I told right away and they both ended in m/c.  This pregnancy we haven't told anyone and I'm 9w5d today.  We are telling family and friends next weekend.  I was released from my RE yesterday and everything is going great with this pregnancy.

ashiepooh · Answer

You can announce it now, or wait until 12 weeks.  Most people wait till 12 weeks!  But i've noticed the people wait till then are people who have had previous miscarriages, or are on miscarriage alert...   So it's up to you

kedarhaze · Answer

well, people are different. When I find out 5 yrs ago I was pregnant, I told my husband, bestfriend, sisters and brothers, and my mom. People assume I was getting fat and telling me to be careful about illness. I did not tell others until I was 7 months. My stomach did not show like I was pregnant until I was 6 months. 

I'm scared of miscarriages, once I was 6 months, I felt like it was safe to announce it. 

its up to you