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for the christians..help!

My bf and I have only been together 7 months. And I'm 12 weeks pregnant. I've been living with him. Today he says he thinks it's best that I don't stay anymore because it's not in gods will... im definitely a Christian ..but its like hws kickin me out.. what do i do????
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Well u already live there and ur pregnant so what does it matter now, that's what I'd b telling him n not only is he putting u out but ur child
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I think it depends on how strict u take things!! Im a christian as are my parents (my parents attended and work at bible college!) But they dont ever judge any of my decisions, i left the church at 16 after being told i was going to hell for having sex with my boyfriend (we are still together now, live together and are expecting our first child 12 years later!) The church says u should be married and be one before having sex.... god says a man and woman become one after commiting their bodies to one another (having sex).... i have had this discussion with many christians and they always say well yes god does say that and that is marriage in gods eyes!!
Sounds to me hun like ur boyfriend is using "gods will" as a get out card to ur relationship, id tell him to do one and celebrate in the miracle god has given u in your little baby! That truely is gods will!!! Xxx
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It's very hard! He says that all that matters is god. Hes very selfish. I told him if i left i wasn't coming back because hes done this before the pregnancy.  I dont have maternity on my insurance either so now idk what to do
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I am not a Christian nor am I Jewish but I follow the whole bible.  Do ur and ur bf believe in marriage?  I would say that he did the deed and now he needs to do the right thing and take care of u and his child.  Does he just think it is wrong to live together or does he want u out of his life?  Maybe both of u should talk to his pastor about it.  It kinda sounds like he is just scared and needs some reassurance that he can be forgiven for what he has done that he knows in his heart was wrong. What do u think?
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I absolutely believe in marriage and want to get married. He doesn't want to.  He says he has to have god kickin him in the but to get married.
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im not a christian but my husband is. but whatever religion it is i mean hun you guys already had sex out of wed lock and were living together and now you are pregnant. i think its a little to late to be involving god and whats seen as bad or good in a religion.  he really needs to man up and take care of you and his baby. it does sound like hes just using your religion to get out. talk to him or like the other ladies said go see your pastor and talk to him together, hes probably scared of becoming a dad and all the responsabilities that come along with it and hes just hiding behind your guys religion.
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I think maybe u getting pregnant is god kicking him in the butt lol tell him to listen properly not just to what he thinks, but hun as they say god works in mysterious ways, it could also be god giving u ur way out of a dead end relationship!
Ive always fought for what i want and trust me there has been many very low points in my relationship but something told me very early on that i had to fight for this relationship and i have! We are now at a point where we are happy and we are extending our little family (very big act of god, i was on deppo when i got preg lol) as for insurance i dont know as im in uk but even if he doesnt want u he still has an obligation to ur child, to support and take care of him/her. Explain that to him.
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Exactly my thoughts!! Thanks ladies for all your advice and input i really need to vent!
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He is an a@#!  Excuse me.. but if it wasnt in Gods will, he wouldnt have slept with you to begin with. I say move out and keep it strictly about the baby. You dont need that b.s.
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I agree!  He's gonba realize it when it's too late. Ive already got my stuff!
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God's Will was served when you conceived that precious baby.
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My question to him would be its not in God's will for me to be a burden to others. You been living there this long. He is using religion as a way out. If its not in God's will to live together tell him to make a honest woman out of you and marry you.
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I agree with what every lady is saying!! I think he is using "Gods Will" as an excuse! He laid down and slept with you while you were not married and you are pregnant now! He needs to man up!
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My dad is a preacher and my family disownd me for getting pregnant before married. You have to think About the baby. If ur man is scared to own up to his doings then I wouldnt keep him around. God has a plan for u and that baby.
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I dont y i m replying u... As u only asked christians not ny other religion...i m a muslim n i knw u expect me to say all same stuff get married thn hve sex.... However u r already pregnant n theres no way on earth u cn change tht.... Ur bf is being a jerk simple as tht... Hes using beliefs to get rid of u... U shoild ask him where were his beliefs whn u n him starting living toggether n started intercourse... I hve heard abt so mny like tht evn in our community thy hve sex n hve fun n all tht n whn thy see responsibility is comming thn thy start being good muslim or christan or whtever thre religion is... Its there way of showing being coward n selfish.... U should kick his *** n tell him u r not leaving... As u need him mre nw thn ever dnt let him get away wiv this... Other is ur decision.... Takecare n best of luck...
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Well he is using God's will against you like the others are saying. If he wants to play that card then maybe you show show him how being a father is every biblical and as a part of God's will he has certain things God expect of him. Have him watch the Resolution it lines it out pretty well. Also God has a plan for each of us but we also have free will and you both excerised your free will and got blessed with a child. God may have wanted things done in a different order or with different people but you both chose so now you get to live it out. I think both of you need to pray about what God wants you guys to do now ya know. And your boyfriend needs to stop copping out its super lame and cowardlike. You getting pregnant could be God saying hey get married but idk I am not God lol. Either way God will provide a way for you and the baby I hope your boyfriend wakes up amd steps up to be a man and take care of you are the baby. Loving you and the baby. Good luck and let us know how it goes.
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