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idk what to do

i am 18 years old.
me and my ex have been messing around alot lately.
in the past 2 months we have done it 7 times. and we didnt use a condom any of the time. i realize now that it was stupid. but now my period is a week late and i think i might be preg.
i cant tell him that i think i am because he will deny it.
idk if it is too soon to take the test?

please someone help?
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im going to take another test in a couple of days. and hopefully it will say something.
but i just dont get how it said positive before and the test i took today said negative.
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its not common to get a false positive...i would go with that one.

usually at your first prenatial apointment you just get your hcg levels checked i think mostly to make sure your pregnant. at least thats what they do around here and at my doctors.

and no its not true that he could take the baby away...im going to court on monday with my ex to fight him for paternity, child support, and medical. i was worried about the same thing and my mom said NO its not about wether you have a job its about him and him supporting his child. i wouldnt worry about it. my mom also said a job with minimum wage will not even pay for childcare hardly. so its not even worth it
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OK MAJORLY CONFUSED NOW.
just to make sure i am pregnant i took another test today and it WAS NEGATIVE.
but the first one i took a couple of days ago said POSITIVE.

ummmm im confused.
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thank goodness. that was somehting i was worried about.
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No - its not true at all.

Many single mums CANT work as they have to look after their babies full time.

I am pregnant and work full time but im taking 6 months off when i have my daughter.

The courts would laugh at him if he tried for full custody
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im planning on doing that today.

UH one question
i was talking to my friend and she told me i need to get a job soon because if my ex wanted to he could try to get custody of my baby since i quit my job and he has one.

is that true?
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They'l probably do a pregnancy test, take your blood pressure, ask you a little about your health background, try work out hw far gone you are and possibly book you in for a scan to determine dates.

Did you tell your ex?
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what happens at the prenatel appt. i think thats what its called? ive nrver been to an obgyn b4 so i am a lil nervous
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yeah i know. i am goign to call him tommrrow and tell him, but im goign to try to get some sleep now

i will be on in the morning.


thankss everyone for being so helpful
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maybe. but you need to just call him and tell him asap. its hard...i kno...but he needs to kno and you need to get it off your chest. you will feel like you have this burden off of your sholders
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yeah i know and maybe as i progress with my pregnancy i will start thinking diffrent
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i kno  but you said you dont want her near your baby, if he stays with her you have to accept that she prob will be around the baby. that was such a hard thing for me to deal with right before my son was born.
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i tried telling him over the phone but that didnt work

i understand and know that he can have someone else around him but i would prefer if she wasnt around me.
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ok your going to have to get over the fact that you dont want your exs girl around your baby. you she can stay away from, but the thing i had to learn was that wether i like it or not.....my babys father has (now had) someone. and i didnt want her anywhere near my son. but the fact of the matter is. i cant help whos around him all the time. my son and your unborn child have a father and he has the right to have who he wants around his child.


i would recomend telling him asap. the longer you wait the harder it will be. and telling him at prom would not be a good thing...unless you want a hudge scene and everyone knowing. tell him tomrrow. dont wait. if your too scared to tell him in person, have your friend there....if you dont want to see him and tell him, then tell him over the phone
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thats a good idea. i think im gonna try that
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I agree with Kim wholeheartedly. Maybe after the prom you could say you're not feeling well and head home instead of the party! Then you won't have to run into "the ex". Maybe a couple of your gfs could meet you at your place a little later for a midnight snack and movie fest. ???
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you dont have to drink. i dont advocate ppl drinking in the first place, ESPECIALLY at and after prom. too many accidents!  do teenagers have fun at all without drinking!! you dont need to drink to have fun. and you can still go to prom if you worrried about the parties then dont go to them but you should go to your prom
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I have to admit I never went to prom and it doesn't bother me. If you think it'll be something that you miss out on and regret, then go!

Anyway, you could just tell them you're fasting (in a sense you are, right?). You mentioned keeping your baby for religious reasons so I assume you are a believer? Or you could tell them you don't want to lose control that night. I'm not really sure what else you could say because I don't drink and haven't really been to a party like that.
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or sat night would be a good time to tell them. idk maybe??
all i know is my ex is going to be there. i just hope without his girlfriend bc like i said earlier i dont not want her near me or my baby
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Say you are on antibiotics (being on antibiotics & drinking lessens the effects of the antibiotics working)

Or say you are not feeling well and cant drink as you throw up everything you try & eat/drink.

Just tell them that you are on medication from the doctor for an infection or otherwise & that you cant drink.?????

Or you could just be honest & tell them or just say you arent drinking due to 'personal reasons'.

If you really didnt want anyone to know but still look like you are drinking you could just mix up some cordial or coloured drink & say that its Vodka you have mixed & just drink that all night & it looks like you are drinking & they wont suspect a thing.

????????

Just make sure you go - you'll regret it otherwise
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but i have only told one of my friends about me being pregnant. and how am i going to explain not drinking. i dont normally drink anyways but a bunch of my friends are having a huge party.
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You dont have to skip out on Prom!!

I didnt even finish my year 12 & went to my prom with a mate who invited me.

Why are you saying that you have to miss out on Prom?

Because of the After Party?

You can still go, just dont drink. You dont have to drink to have a good time!

Just look at what you will get in the end - a baby. I am still waiting to ttc & although its only been a month I want one so bad!!

Dont miss out on going to Prom- you will regret it.

I didnt drink hardly at all at the after party & had a great time.

Pls go - you will love it!
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wow well prom is on sat. i think i am going to skip out on prom now
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I already PMed you some things but I'll put it here as well:

No drinking, smoking, drugs. Drink lots of water, take a prenatal vitamin, and get plenty of sleep. Mild exercise (like walking and stretching) are GREAT too!
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