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my baby won't sleep unless she is in bed with me!!
hi everyone! sorry i haven't been on much...very busy being mommy!! i have a question: my 5 week old baby girl hates her craddle. she will only sleep in it the first hour or so of the night after i put her to sleep. when she wakes up in it, she gets upset and only sleeps more than an hour at a time if she is in bed with me. but then, i don't sleep. well, to be honest, i don't sleep either way!! am i spoiling her or teaching her bad habits this young? i would like to move her to her crib within the next 6 or 7 weeks. i know she will hate it! any advice appreciated!!
I know! I woke up last night and they were both in my bed! I was so tired I managed to stumble into the restroom to tinkle:) and fell back into bed. And it's worse because I have really bad carpel tunnel syndrome so laying on my right arm is awful! Or when my 2 yr old lays on my arm. I really need to fix this quick. LOL
you and daddy have to work together on this one. it will take a couple of sleepless nights but thats the price we pay. you have to make sure you put them right back in their beds and when they realize they wont win the battle, they will stay in their beds. It works. It just s u c k s.
I'm actually having this same problem right now with my 2 year old and my 4 year old. He gets in my bad about 2 hours after he falls asleep. I'm to exhausted to go put him back in his room. And my DD goes right to daddy's side to sleep by him. I really need to get them sleeping in their own beds by July when my baby is born. Any suggestions?
LOL....... well i hope all is well and your baby girl is finely sleeping in her own bed. I'll have to be more aware of the post date want i?
My 2nd and 3rd pretty much stayed in bed with us until one was 4 and the other was 5. They transitioned into their own rooms becuase I was pregnant again and it was just time for that to happen. I would always put them to sleep in their own beds but they would wake up and come in our room. I don't think it's spoiling, some people might differ. They are now 6 and 7 and sleep in their own rooms just fine.
it is easier to start early because unlike some of the earlier comments some kids do prefer to sleep with mommy and daddy forever because they never grow out of being scared of the dark. trust me, do it now. its easier.
ok, i have four kids so i know a little about this. you have to stick to putting her in her crip. she will adjust. it's you that is having the problem following through. I know it breaks your heart but she is ok. as long as she doesnt have a soar tummy or something and you can usually hear a difference in their cries. you have to be solid with this and it will work. you dont wont an 11 yr old sleeping in the bed with you do you?
They make a teddy bear that has a heart beat. The one i saw was called a " mommy bear". that may help her to sleep on her own. Thats a habbit you want to break early. Im an nanny for a 2, 3, an 5 year old. The 2 an 3 year old still sleep in their bed most nights. It can make things hard for you can hubby/boy friend to have alone time. it puts a strain on a marrage. Anita
my lil one was like that...wouldnt sleep in a crib or a basinet....or my bed...i think she found it to big..some new borns are like that,,espically if they are tiny like ours was!! My daughter was 6 12 and i put her in a basket.,..i know that sounds weired...but i put a pillow in the basket and then her...i put the basket in the crib and she slept like a lil well baby!! lol...good luck,,,maby she find that its too big for her and she dosent feel secure unless shes with you..i mean she was cooped up in that belly of yours for 9 whole months!! A lil longer with you!! hehe...try wrapping her up and putting blankets around her to make her feel more confinded!! Maby that will help!! good luck hun lemme know how it goes!
I know with my step-son, hubby said that he slept with him and his ex until he was around 7 or 8. I told my hubby "no way" were we letting our kids sleep in bed with us every night!! I cherish my sleepy time with hubby so much ...I know I can't expect it to be the same when Jaiden comes, but I want to try hard to keep him in his crib/packnplay as much as possible for naps and at night.
Oh Laura, your poor sister! By the way, I was writing my comment when you published yours so don't think I was purposefully trying to contradict you!!! Not the case whatsoever.
By the way, you're not setting her up to be a bad sleeper if she does sleep with you. In many cultures they have "family beds" where the parents and children sleep together. I understand your desire to have your space, sleep, and time with hubby/partner, but I also know from experience that your little girl won't want to sleep with you indefinitely!
It's a choice- to have your child sleep on their own or to co-sleep. Whichever method you choose, so long as you make safe choices, it's great!
It's a choice- to have your child sleep on their own or to co-sleep. Whichever method you choose, so long as you make safe choices, it's great!
Hi Lady!!!
I am not much help here, but all I can say is my sister had the same problem.. My niece is now 11 yrs. old and still sleeps with her.. Its a huge problem..
I am not saying it always turns out this way!! =) I am planning on putting Jaxson in his crib from Day 1.. And like you said you arent sleeping anyway so I personally would try and break the habit sooner rather than later!!
That aside, how ARE YOU!?? =)
I am not much help here, but all I can say is my sister had the same problem.. My niece is now 11 yrs. old and still sleeps with her.. Its a huge problem..
I am not saying it always turns out this way!! =) I am planning on putting Jaxson in his crib from Day 1.. And like you said you arent sleeping anyway so I personally would try and break the habit sooner rather than later!!
That aside, how ARE YOU!?? =)
Sounds like my firstborn. She ended up sleeping with us for 10-11 months, in the crook of my arm and at the time we had a FULL size bed (dirt poor newlyweds). I didn't get much sleep either but it was worth it to us. When she was ready, she made the transition to her crib. I started off with naps. Once she started sleeping a good solid hour in her crib, I started putting her to bed at night.
Rituals help. Being consistent is a major plus as well. There will be nights where she will cry. She's still young enough that you should answer her cries within a few minutes because she doesn't understand. When she's older (maybe around 6 months) you can let her fuss a little longer to see if she calms herself down. But if she's just screaming, then it's time to go in.
Good luck! Your baby girl won't sleep with you forever. Our girl doesn't. She's 3 now. She went to a "big girl bed" when she was around 20 months old and she sleeps through the night, in her own room. Nothing lasts forever. Cherish these moments, no matter how annoying it may get!
Rituals help. Being consistent is a major plus as well. There will be nights where she will cry. She's still young enough that you should answer her cries within a few minutes because she doesn't understand. When she's older (maybe around 6 months) you can let her fuss a little longer to see if she calms herself down. But if she's just screaming, then it's time to go in.
Good luck! Your baby girl won't sleep with you forever. Our girl doesn't. She's 3 now. She went to a "big girl bed" when she was around 20 months old and she sleeps through the night, in her own room. Nothing lasts forever. Cherish these moments, no matter how annoying it may get!
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