need help

[realest17]

SO I'm 17 and yesterday i had unprotected sex with this boy and i believe he cam in me but he said he didn't. The thing i would like to know is that if I'm on the pill and i take it regularly how i suppose to can i still end up pregnant if he cam in me?????

[stoney1215]

dont beat yourself up about it . odds are very high that you are not pregnant . but there is no point beating yourself up until you actually have a reason to . take a pregnancy test .
and as far as not using a condom , most people do not use them . especially ones who are on birth control and have a steady partner . my wife and i used the pill / pull out method for years and never once had a scare .  
remember this ..... if a guy doesnt care enough about you to pull out when you let him go bare he definitely doesnt care enough about you to be someone you put your trust in .  dont expect any less from your partner than you are giving yourself . and dont overlook it or make excuses for him . people will always do what you let them do and you have to decide if your going to let him not help you protect yourself with the choices you make with him .

[MsKitty84]

It's all right. We've all been there one time or another. There's almost zero chance that you're pregnant if you've been taking your pills correctly. It's a fair question. You have nothing to be ashamed about.

But... you're not the only one responsible for making sure that you're having safe sex. It takes two. Any man who lies to you about what he's doing in the bedroom or with other people, or who refuses to use protection when you ask does not deserve to have sex with you. Pick a partner who's trustworthy, set standards and hold each other to them. :-)

[maci92]

the likelihood of you being pregnant is slim to none. take a breathe. it will be okay.

[realest17]

thanks everyone and i know i should have been wearing a condom i wasn't thinking at all this is the first time i ever did that and i'm so terrified and ashamed of my self for my mistakes i was in a stressed out mood and it can probably mess my life up now :-'( tears I just have to wait it out hopefully all is well thanks again everyone

[karmaghia]

The pill is supposed to be 99.9% full proof.  Pretty low chances if you take them regularly and dont miss any.

[Carly1306]

Whether a man ejaculates inside you or not doesn't matter. When a male becomes aroused, pre-ejaculation is released and this can also cause pregnancy. That is why you need to be wearing a condom any time his penis comes into contact with your vagina. The pill is also only as effective as it can be when take EVERY day, at the SAME time every day.

All you can do now is wait for your next period, or wait at least 2 weeks and take a home pregnancy test with first morning urine.

[MsKitty84]

Hi realest.
It doesn't really matter if he came in you or not, because pulling out can get you pregnant too. That's not birth control. And if you're having sex, you need to be sure your partner deserves to be trusted -- him lying about what he's doing can get you a disease too. To be as safe as you can, tell him he has to wear a condom.
If you take your pills every day at the same time and you know you haven't missed any, you don't have a high risk of pregnancy because the pill stops you from ovulating. It's not 100% foolproof but it's pretty good. But if you're bad about remembering one once in awhile, you may want emergency contraception (Plan B). You can get this at a pharmacy or from your public health nurse, and you need to take it within 3-5 days of unprotected sex for it to work. By law, if you're in the U.S., you don't need parental consent, and it won't cause an abortion, just stop you from getting pregnant. It might make you nauseous or feel like bad PMS for a couple weeks, and it can screw up your cycle, so it's really for emergencies only.

[lilbit_17]

The only way to know is to take a pregnancy test with first morning urine after you miss a period.