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okay im 16 years old an about 3 weeks ago i was raped i didnt tell my parents and now i think i might be pregnate i dont kno exaclty how to tell cuz i have no money for a pregnacey test. but if i am i was thnkin of abortion is that wrong of me to think that its just everyday i look at my baby i'll be reminded of that night. please help me
I am so sorry to hear that. But the best thing to do about the rape part you should deffinately tell an adult asap. Baby girl you are only 16 you have you whole life ahead of you and this freak just took a piece of it and destroied it he needs to be punished. I don't believe in abortion but I always used to say that you should never have one unless its for helth reasons or you get raped. But then I have some friends that are gay and they are really nice and careing and they are devoted to wanting to adopt a baby. And then i realized that even bein raped you still shouldn't have the abortion cause it could help out a helping family. But for some reason if you really think that it would put you in bad physciall condition to carry the baby then that would be ur decision. But hurry up and tell and adult so you can put that scum bag away. I'm sorry to hear that but never get your head down that doesn't change the person you are and there are also support groups out there that will help you get through this. Just do whats best for right at this moment and tell an adult it's not you fault so you don't need to be scared. Good look and God will guide you through this
I have a sixteen yr old daughter I became pg with her when I was her age. If you were my daughter I would take you in my arms and hold on for dear life not because you might be pg but because you were raped! You have got to tell someone. Anyone! I have never been raped and I pray to God that neither of my daughters ever will be either. I would think and I hope that they both know that they can come to me for anything! If you are pg you need to think about everything, abortion is an option but I would never recommend that. Just because you were raped does not mean that the child would only remind you of that awful day. This child would be a part of YOU! At your age I would recommend adoption unless you have a very caring family who will love and support you and your child unconditionally for life like mine and my husband family have us. (No we didn't get married right away, she was almost 4) We now have 4 beautiful children 16, 10, 8, & 2 and we couldn't be happier!
im so sorry to hear what you have gone and going through hun. If you feel like you cant speek to your parents isnt there a family member you could to talk to. You need to try and get it out in the open and you will feel a little better. Please speak to someone, you have nothing to be ashamed about you have done nothing wrong and you shouldnt be going through this on your own.
Im really sorry you're having to go through.
You need to speak to someone and discuss your options.
Take a pregnany test asap.
If you are pregnant the choice is yours and noone will judge you for it. Many women have abortions for many different reasons and only you can decide what is the right path for you.
You also need to ensure you seek medical help as you may be at risk of having caught an STD.
This, if left untreated may cause you medical problems in the future.
All the best, try stay strong :)
You need to speak to someone and discuss your options.
Take a pregnany test asap.
If you are pregnant the choice is yours and noone will judge you for it. Many women have abortions for many different reasons and only you can decide what is the right path for you.
You also need to ensure you seek medical help as you may be at risk of having caught an STD.
This, if left untreated may cause you medical problems in the future.
All the best, try stay strong :)
There is an organisation call RAINN which deals with rape . www.rainn.org and ther is a hotline 1800-656-hope. It is free and confidential. They can hook you up with a local agency to get you some help. There are many people who have been in your situation and they will be able to guide you better. I hope this is of some help.
I'm so sorry about what you went through, when i was 17 I was date raped. I understand if you would want to chose abortion, when a women is raped I believe 100% that they should have the choice of abortion. BUT that being said adoption would be my choice since I am adopted. And you know what? If you didn't want to see the ultasound you wouldn't have to, just tell them you are giving the baby up and you would also have the choice to see the baby or not when you gave birth. A friend's daughter had her baby at 16 and she had 3 months to deciede whether to go though with the adoption or not, she did!she still sees her baby a few times a year, but it was the best thing she could;ve done for all.
You need to tell your parents ASAP, before you get a pregnancy test.
You need to tell your parents ASAP, before you get a pregnancy test.
THanks ladies..... Hailllley was so beautiful.......
And I agree, you truly do need to talk to someone.. If you don't it could only make things worse......
And I agree, you truly do need to talk to someone.. If you don't it could only make things worse......
I do not promote abortion but I do not condem it. It is a choice that only you can make. Adoption is good in theory but you will still have to carry the child to term, and see the ultrasound etc. and that can cause more emotional trauma because you have carried this child for almost 10 months and you bond with your child when it is in you then you have to hand it over. If you have a good support system keeping and raising it is always an option, you may be surprised at how it feels in the end. And of course abortion is always an option as well if you do not think you can mentally handle the other two alternatives at the moment. All have pros and cons you will have to decide what is best for you. I do not think you are wrong or "bad" for considering abortion, you've been through something that is very very traumatic.
I STRONGLY agree that you need to talk to someone, anyone. Even if at the moment it is just a friend at first, work your way up to an adult or your parents. Of course, if you talk to your parents they can be there for you when you test, and help you decide what the best path to take is. If you ever want to vent feel free to personal message me.
I STRONGLY agree that you need to talk to someone, anyone. Even if at the moment it is just a friend at first, work your way up to an adult or your parents. Of course, if you talk to your parents they can be there for you when you test, and help you decide what the best path to take is. If you ever want to vent feel free to personal message me.
Mom23Angels I'm SO SORRY that happened to you. sometimes this world is such ****. but the things it produces can be so beautiful.
mom23angels25f...sorry to hear about your situation...
if you can talk to someone, any where, an adult who you trust, they can help point you in the right direction, but you do need to speak up...ive been in a rape situation myself and it helped to talk to someone!
if you can talk to someone, any where, an adult who you trust, they can help point you in the right direction, but you do need to speak up...ive been in a rape situation myself and it helped to talk to someone!
I agree with GreenEyed..... You need to tell someone..... I was in your situation 8 years ago... *getting teary eyed thinking of her* I was gang raped by my bf and 7 of his friends..... I didn't find out until I was almost 5 months pregnant with her that I was expecting.... Only because I have wacky cycles....... When I told him, he was ok at first... The next day I asked him to go to the DR with me and he flipped out..> Pushed me down the stairs and then kicked me in the stomach...Later that night my water broke and I was forced to give birth to her... She died in utero of an anurysm.... I was going to give her up for adoption....... I would tell someone hon.. I never did, and I was so alone...... Don't do that to yourself........ It will only make things' worse....
I agree with the other ladies. You need to tell an adult, as hard as that is, okay? Find someone you can trust. If you can't tell your parents just yet, then go to a school counselor or your mom's friend, a neighbor, a friend's mom, etc. Get some support.
Abortion doesn't have to be the path you choose. There are other options. And while you think looking upon a child's face would be difficult and remind you of that night, you still do not know what the future holds. Adoption would be the best gift you could give anyone.
You don't have to make a choice today. Get a pregnancy test, then worry about it. If it is negative, you should still tell someone about the rape. You have experienced a traumatic experience and no matter if you're 15 or 45 you need counseling to deal with the post-traumatic stress.
Abortion doesn't have to be the path you choose. There are other options. And while you think looking upon a child's face would be difficult and remind you of that night, you still do not know what the future holds. Adoption would be the best gift you could give anyone.
You don't have to make a choice today. Get a pregnancy test, then worry about it. If it is negative, you should still tell someone about the rape. You have experienced a traumatic experience and no matter if you're 15 or 45 you need counseling to deal with the post-traumatic stress.
Here's my opinion.
Tell your parents. Have them get you a test.
And if you are pregnant, then you can always carry to term and give him/her up for adoption with a loving home who never has to know of this babies true past.
I understand that your hurt emotionally and physically. But I think that if you are pregnant, there's no reason to not give a healthy baby a chance at life.
Once he/she goes up for adoption you never have to hear about that child again if you don't want to.
Go to your local planned parenthood clinic, you can find it in the phone book, that way you can speak with them if you don't wanna tell your parents.
But if you are pregnant your family will eventually know because you'll begin to show.
and you'll need mental and prenatal care ASAP.
Cindie
Tell your parents. Have them get you a test.
And if you are pregnant, then you can always carry to term and give him/her up for adoption with a loving home who never has to know of this babies true past.
I understand that your hurt emotionally and physically. But I think that if you are pregnant, there's no reason to not give a healthy baby a chance at life.
Once he/she goes up for adoption you never have to hear about that child again if you don't want to.
Go to your local planned parenthood clinic, you can find it in the phone book, that way you can speak with them if you don't wanna tell your parents.
But if you are pregnant your family will eventually know because you'll begin to show.
and you'll need mental and prenatal care ASAP.
Cindie
most hospital does them for free.I would tell some one it will neverget better if you dont .Trust me i know.
i'd tell an adult, or someone you can trust but you need to tell someone, try planned parenthood some offer free test or the dollar tree has them as well
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