telling parents

[symmes]

Hey everyone, I recently found out I was pregnant, I'm 23 and live with my mother and her boyfriend. I've already decided that I am keeping my baby, my best friend has been so supportive. I've decided that I am not telling the father, I'm prepared to do this without him. I am most worried about telling my parents, I know they will be mad, but I.am hopeful that they will come around. Any suggestions on telling them??

[KTowne]

I agree Kimejo.. it's not very fair to not tell the father, even if his life style isn't what it should be, at least let him know and give him the opportunity to step up and change, if he doesn't, you did your part. Your child will wonder someday who his/her father is and it's only fair to your baby that he/she knows, and so does the father. Otherwise, have a plan in place, tell them you're going to get a job (if you don't already) have a budget in place, don't expect their help, still have future goals, be mature and let them know you're happy about your baby and you're going to be a great mama, your confidence will assure them!

[dab20]

Like mentioned before, act happy. Tell them your plans for the future and how you will support this baby. I'm twenty and when I told my mom I was pregnant she was very upset with me even though I'm engaged to the father and have lived with him over a year. She warmed up quickly though and now can't wait to be a grandma of twin girls!! My point is even if they are upset at first they probably won't be for long!

[fmt13]

I was da same way with my parents. I just showed them than sonograms and let them say what they had to say. I'm 19, ur old enuff to do what u please. If they do get mad u still have ur best friends support, just give them time to come around.

[Kimejo_81]

I don't mean to be a buzz kill, however do you really think it's fair not to tell the father of your baby? I mean I've been in your situation I was 17 when I have my first son, however I realized it was completely selfish of me not to allow the father to know that I was having his child. I had my best friend tell me that it was morally wrong to not tell the father even though we didn't get along. Fortunately it worked out he didn't want to be a part of the baby's life anyway, but I personally feel you should give him the option unless of course he's abusive or drughie or an alcoholic. Congrats on your pregnancy. As for telling your mom, just do it she might be upset at first but then should be really happy because she gets to have a grand baby. :)

[RikaReek]

Hi im 23 too & currently living with my mom bc after I told her she wanted me to be closer to her since it's her first grandchild : ) I just told her and I was scared even tho im grown lol I didnt want to disappoint her bc im still in school, but she was supportive & just told me its goin to be hard bc im goin to b a single parent too but she knw I can do it.......jus sit your mom dowm & tell her the truth even down to y you are not telling the father, good luck : )

[baby2_on_the_way]

Smile. Even tho your worried i'm sure your happy at the same time because being a mommy is the best thing ever! If you tell them with a smile on your face they are less likely to try and shoot down your joy about this. Also have a game plan so when you tell then, you can also tell them your plans for work, school, income to support the child, etc. good luck. Even if they get mad, they love you and will recovery lol I just turned 20 about a week ago and I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter and I an 20 Weeks pregnant with my baby boy. My parents were happy for me because I was happy for me.