vent....proud of myself

Question

So those of you that are on here often know that my husband and I are at a rough patch in our marriage. Every weekend he choose to be with his friends and drink, then to spend time with me and our 2 girls. But every other time he doesn't come I'm constantly blowing up his phone until 1 or 2 in the morning. But not this time I keep telling myself I will be strong for my girls because them seeing me cry and me crying being stressed out isn't healthy for none of us. I can and will do this for my girls. Never felt good about myself until now. I know it won't be easy but I'm sure it does get easier. I've thought over and over again about divorce and I think that is the best option for me and my little ones. That song by Sara Evans "A little bit stronger" was made for me :)  sorry for the long post for those who read it. I can't talk to my 5 year old lol and have no one else to talk to. Hope all you ladies enjoy your night.

jerica86 · Answer

Haha I know right I feel like my boys only have a sperm donor not a real dad, it would be so much easier in some cases to just be able to make babies without the dad so there would no longer be any chance of a dead beat. And you're very welcome, I'm here anytime you're more than welcome to inbox me as well if you ever need someone to talk or vent too :)

ashleyarenas · Answer

Oh wow I'm sorry you had to deal with that :/ I wish we can make babies with no baby daddy haha. I really appreciate chatting with you. Made me feel good about my decision.

jerica86 · Answer

And I wouldn't maybe you standing up for yourself and standing your ground will show him you're serious this time and show him what he's got to lose I know it's a long shot but I tried to hold on to that hope until mine just progressively got worse, granted mine had a lot of domestic violence against me and my children too so that was the big decision maker to leave for me

ashleyarenas · Answer

Awh :( you know I wish he would be the man daddy and husband I want him to be but me wishing isn't going to change anything. We were suppose to be taking the girls to the zoo tomorrow but I guess ill go alone. I went alone.with them to chuck e cheese last Sunday and I came home he was completely wasted. He's 27 years old and acts like he's 18. He goes out to clubs matter fact he just came here took shower got dressed and left again. And I didn't say one word :)  usually I'm crying asking why he does this. But NOT THIS TIME!!

jerica86 · Answer

I went through the same it was horrible I've been seperated for a year my divorce is finally wrapping up and being totally finished I've been with my boyfriend for about 7 months and to our surprise even though we used precautions I'm not 17 weeks pregnant. I never thought I would get through my divorce it was so hard and hurtful I think god sent me my new boyfriend to help me and my boys get through it :) believe me some days will feel like it'll never get better but it does and when you see how much more happy you and those babies are without that stress you'll see you did the right thing :)

ashleyarenas · Answer

Never imagine anything more important than my girls. I'm not even exaggerating when I say I cried everyday. I mean everyday I'm a very sensitive person. And he tears me down every time he's here.  He's even gone to the point to say he hopes I die. I've seen my mom go through all the stuff like this and 4 years is enough for me. So this week ill be do the divorce. Well I say I am. Haha

jerica86 · Answer

I never understood that part either I mean I see my sons and can't imagine anything more important or precious but then I remember they are better off seeing that mommy loves them unconditionally and not dealing with a mediocre dad

ashleyarenas · Answer

I just look at these girls and think how in the hell can he keep doing this? I don't know I guess its different for men and women. But I can do this! Ill let all my tears go while I'm in the shower or something.

jerica86 · Answer

Girl that song was my anthem through my divorce its rough but it does get easier chin up momma

BabyTurnip · Answer

Im so proud of you! Be strong for your little ones but also for yourself! You desrrve to feel good about yourself and im sure it gets easier. Because everytime he gives you a reason to cry and ur not, your building that strenght and self esteem and will have so much at some point that ur little ones will feel it too :) and knowing u can protect them and that they are right there looking up at you with those sparkly eyes will make you feel even better! Go momma bear! Anytime you want to talk go right ahead! Ladies here are lovely and more then happy to encourage each other!