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Anyone else annoyed by the comments of others?
I'm ready to strangle someone, or at least the next person that says something diminishing to my appearance. I'm shocked by the things that freely slip out of the mouths of women. I've been told multiple times that " I'm getting big," and not in the cute way, but in the you better slow down girl you're getting too pregnant way. I've been told that I'm the same size as someone who is eight months pregnant (I'm 18 weeks). I've been told that I should be more careful with my diet because all of the weight I put on now, I WILL have to lose after the baby comes. I was told a couple of days ago that it's about time I get bigger scrubs, and "are you really only x weeks pregnant?" I'm a FTM and I've gained nine pounds at eighteen weeks..... and I feel beautiful and amazed that my body is capable of creating, and nurturing this life growing inside me. I am absolutely blown away by this experience. Why as women do we feel okay about criticizing the appearance of other women, as if society doesn't put enough pressure on us to look perfect. We put so much importance on physical attributes, when our self worth should be so much deeper than skin deep. I'm sick of it. Anyone else care to vent or share?
Im 17 weeks with my third child and I've only gained 6lbs. It's ALL belly, and boy does everyone at work like to point that out! From "oh so if you know you're having a boy then you've had an ultrasound-are you sure there aren't 2 in there?", to "wow you're eating all of THAT for lunch?" It seems like men know to keep their mouths shut but women are just so insensitive. Almost like they take pleasure in putting you down. I just try to laugh it off, especially since the ones who make their comments are past child-bearing age, are overweight, and are probably jealous! You're beautiful, just remember that!
It's a nice to know I'm not alone :) and RudyMall I like your response, I'll have to try that next time. A little sarcasm is good.
Thats one thing i haven't been able to figure out. Many of the women that say hurtful comments have been pregnant so they should know how sensitive & hormonal we can be. I dont know why its such a common thing to say "are you sure it's not twins??" I've only gained 10 pounds & feel smaller this pregnancy than the first. But strangers feel its necessary to ask the twins question, some of the people asking are bigger than me & they're not pregnant!!
I normally say "I know! I think I might be pregnant!" When people say I'm big. People don't know how to react to that!
@lidilou that's was so rude of her!! Are you sure you not having twins?? Like really? You handled yourself well!!
Myeverything843 I did that in line at Starbucks once. She asked when I due. I responded, June. Then she says, "Wow you're really big. Are you having twins?" I said, No. But thanks for asking and she says, "Are you sure?" Well that about did it and I looked at her and said, I'm pregnant. Pregnant woman gain weight. What's your excuse? She shut up. I was livid and proceeded to order coffee with some lemony dessert. F her!! I'm a beautiful pregnant lady, at least my family says so lol
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being told you are big, big is beautiful, it's more about how it's being said that bothers me. I think we all know the difference between good intentions, and bad ones. Working in a female dominated field (nursing) I know when someone is being malicious and rude vs someone who has good intentions but maybe poor word choice. I love my body, and all of the changes it's going through, I feel like I'm a part of a very fortunate club and I hate when others (mostly women) try and rain on my parade!!! We need to be boosting each other up, not trying to tear each other down.
I have an idea...just nicely say. Well I'm pregnant...what's your excuse! That's shut them the hell up
What is wrong with being told you're big? Big is beautiful, especially in pregnancy. Take it as a compliment! Say 'thank you, I know I'm blooming!'
I'm 16 weeks and gained 5kg very early on (9-10 pounds) It's obviously my body's response and requirement. Women are designed for weight gain and carrying extra pounds because of our ability to bear children. Men are not; it's not as safe for me to be chunky!
I'm 16 weeks and gained 5kg very early on (9-10 pounds) It's obviously my body's response and requirement. Women are designed for weight gain and carrying extra pounds because of our ability to bear children. Men are not; it's not as safe for me to be chunky!
Ah yes, the twins comments, I've had a few "maybe you've got more than one in there." One day maybe people will learn not to say ANYTHING about a pregnant woman's weight, maybe not :) Thanks for sharing ladies, I feel much better, and overall the message is clear..... We are all beautiful!!!!
I'm so sorry you have to hear that from people you work with. Hearing it from strangers is hard enough but from people you see every day takes a different toll on your emotions and overall confidence.
Your beautiful. You are going to bring another human into the world that doesn't care if you gained 15 or 50 pounds!
I'm 32 weeks now but started getting the "twin comments" at 20 weeks. So far I gained 18 pounds. I started making the wise cracks back but now just ignore them. Just turn your around with your head high, ignoring them. They are not with it. Don't let them ruin one day of being pregnant.
Your beautiful. You are going to bring another human into the world that doesn't care if you gained 15 or 50 pounds!
I'm 32 weeks now but started getting the "twin comments" at 20 weeks. So far I gained 18 pounds. I started making the wise cracks back but now just ignore them. Just turn your around with your head high, ignoring them. They are not with it. Don't let them ruin one day of being pregnant.
I've had great comments from both men and women about my pregnancy and how I'm carrying well but there's always that one person (hater) that irks the heck out of you. My co-worker Natalie went as far as not only telling me I'm going to get huge but also showed me HER pic of how big she got with her pregnancy. She also pointed out that my jacket is getting too tight on me. Let's just say she's not getting invited to my baby shower. You're all beautiful. Pay no mind to miserable/negative pple.
Well I have a older female co-worker who just head to say "oh you have grown much wider now" (23weeks, gained 20pounds) , I responded calmly "yes, I noticed it too, too bad I'm not growing any taller". Haha!
Everybody I run into tells me how cure I look or how well I'm carrying because I'm all baby. Except my mom. Every time I see my mom its "oh my, you're getting fat!" or "you look like a hippo!" or "your legs are huge!". And she wonders why I don't visit more often.
Yes I agree unfortunately this is the society we live in and its sad how some men and women criticise like if they were perfect but just let it in through one ear and out the other like you heard nothing. I say men also cause I just remembered my brother in law is one of those lol...he's commented on my weight being pregnant and right after pregnancy also and laughing saying I still look pregnant or saying I need to go look for a special clothing store cause not every store will sell my size lol..he's very insensitive and ignorant but I just laugh at his dumb comments. I dont feel big, I feel comfortable with my appearance.People like that just need to be ignored. I was a size 7 or 9 in juniors before my pregnancy btw.
I've learned to laugh it off what can you do nothing some people have no bedside manner ...
Yes my hubby showed someone my pic in Korea and his response was "oooo she's big" now that all I think about. Grrrr!
Yes! That is beautiful! I'm more bothered in general than personally. I just can't believe how women treat each other, and it leaves me sad for us as a society. Of course it is possible that I may be a little more sensitive right now, but regardless, I won't let anyone ruin this beautiful experience for me, I promise!
Yes I've been told I'm huge or that my belly is huge,even asking if in having twins..or asking me if I'm almost due...I'm28wks.It really doesn't bother me.I've had to deal with this type of people since a long time ago so I've learned to ignore,or at least not let it get to me.I've even had this old lady telling me that all the years she's known me I've always been pregnant and asking me when I'm gonna stop having babies.I've known her for at least10 years and this is the third time she sees me pregnant.I just think of that people as people who are not happy with their life so they try to make ours miserable also.I'm happy with my life and with my growing family and will not let anyone change it!!
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