Suggestions when ovulate on your own

[kristine625]

Hello everyone.  I wanted to throw this question out there.  Long story short, I am quite possibly having my third miscarriage.  We'll know more on Monday.

But here's my question for all of us 35+er's.

What type of treatments have any of you experienced, with success, when you ovulate on your own and get pregnant quickly.  I am 39 years old. I seem to ovulate every month. We get pregnant the first time we try. It's nothing to brag about because as I mentioned, I am probably going on my third miscarriage, all first trimester.

My specialist did the whole shabang of blood work and found nothing that could be causing the miscarriages.  But with my age, I am fully aware of the egg quality issue.

Do you guys have any suggestions?  This last time we just did progesterone suppositories (in addition to pre natal vitamins and baby aspirin).  No shots, no clomid.

Thannks in advance for your thoughts.  I really appreciate it.

[adgal]

I will probably not get to see an RE for 6 months, up to a year.  The wait here is very long.  However, I posted this question in the Expert Forum in Feb. and the OB/GYN that works with MedHelp is the one that told me about this IVF procedure.  Here is the link. It might give you a little insight as well.

http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Pregnancy/Looking-for-2nd-Opinion/show/766604

I know what you mean about the emotional stress associated with this. I didn't expect it to hit me as hard as it did either, although I will admit, for some reason this time has been easier on me. Perhaps it just hasn't hit me full on yet.  Hang in there, things have an amazing way of working themselves out. I keep telling myself that when I finally have my baby, all of this will have been worth it!!

Hugs to you.  Please let me know how it goes.

[kristine625]

I'll be very interested in hearing what they tell you about IVF and finding only the healthy eggs.  Please shoot me a note when you find out, if you think of it.  I also plan on asking my guy much more about it if this one doesn't work out.  I'll let you know if he makes that any clearer.

I don't want to give up, but I will be honest, I can only take so much more of this miscarriage stuff.  It really messes with your mentality.  I didn't think it would.  But it does.

[adgal]

I too have had IVF mentioned to me.  It also confused me as my problem is like yours, I can get pregnant, I just can't stay that way. I know there is a procedure now where when they harvest the eggs for in vitro, they can "check" them somehow in order to only implant the healthy ones.  I honestly don't know much more then that about it.  I am on the wait list to see an RE and I will be asking.

Yes, all my miscarriages have been first trimester.  10 & 8 weeks, 2 chemical, and this one is 4 weeks.  It's frustrating, but I refuse to give up.  Something else I plan to look into when I see the RE is donor eggs.  I know of at least 2 women on this forum who have or are having successful pregnancies that way.  

I wish you luck Kris, and I hope that this pregnancy turns out to be just fine!!  Sometimes these little ones seem to "hide" until they are good and ready to be found.  Please keep me posted.

[kristine625]

Thanks Amanda,   you were kind enough to respond to my other post as well regarding a six week ultrasound showing nothing but the gestational sac.  I will go in on Monday to possibly decide viability.

By treatments, I am talking about all the stuff that fertility specialists offer=  progesterone, chlomide, HCG shots, IUI and IVF.  I have heard of an infinite combination of these things... shots and chlomide with IUI.  Shots with Progesterone.  ETC.

I guess I'm just a little confused because I thought IUI and IVF were for people having trouble ovulating and/or conceiving.

My Doctor mentioned during my six week ultrasound that the good news is, I have an "excellent" chance of producing five eggs, according to one of the many tests he ran.  And that means I have a great chance of IVF being successful the first time.  But I don't need help conceiving.  I need help keeping it.

So, I don't see any benefit for us doing IVF or really IUI.  Unless I'm not understanding what these procedures accomplish.

I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriages.  Were they all first trimester (if you don't mind me asking)?  I have many friends who are having trouble conceiving and often say, "Gosh, if I could just GET pregnant..."  But I try and tell them that it isn't any easier to get pregnant, then lose it.

If mine turns out to be another miscarriage, I gotta tell you I have had no cramping, no bleeding.  Weird.  Just brown spotting for about 7-8 hours on Tuesday.

Thanks again Amanda-  Any further thoughts....   Kris.

[adgal]

Hi Kristine.  I am 40 and just going through my 5th miscarriage as we speak.  I understand your pain and frustration.  I too get pregnant very easily on my own.  I have also had every test under the sun with no reason being found (beyond some fibroids that she does not think are the culprit).

I am not sure what treatments you mean...are you talking about things to help you continue to get pregnant?  If so, many have found chlomide to be helpful, although it had a negative effect on me.  I also use preseed, a lubricant that mimics a women's natural fertile mucus around ovulation time. I also use ovulation predictor kits, and swear by them!!

If you are talking about treatments to help you not miscarry, that is slightly more challenging. Some OB's do believe that chlomide can help, as it increases your progesterone levels.  I also take progesterone supplements like you, and the baby asprin and pre natal vitamins high in folic acid.  As you probably already know, most first trimester miscarriages are caused by a chromosonal abnormality.  Nature typically aborts them all on her own.  Those of us "older" moms to be have a slightly increased risk of this.  My OB feels that instead of 20% loss rate, ours is around 25%.  You will find different statistics on different websites...

I can tell you that there are many women here who have experienced what you and I have and still gone on to have normal healthy pregnancies.  Some of us just have a bit of bad luck on the way.  If you are getting pregnant on your own easily, having regular cycles, you are in great shape!!  You will get that healthy egg, and I hope you are soon celebrating the end of a first trimester!!  I wish you well.  Amanda