Im not doing good at all does anyone have these problems

[sandy201]

Im turning 38 this year and 7 months pregnant, just found out I have a bladder infection, on top of that the last 2 months have been horrible... I wasnt supposed to have children due to my ovarian cists being taken out when I was 20.. Anyway Im so depressed, Im an outgoing person normally, I feel so ugly... My hands are numb and tingly, (u know when u fall asleep on ur arm or hand while ur sleeping and wake up and cant feel it), well thats how my hands feel all day, my obgyn says its either the baby is sittng on a major nerve or i have carpull tunnel and it comes out during pregncy but will go away... Im always tired, my hnads wont allow me to do !@#!!! I cant even hold a phone , Im so bloated , my eyes feel like I just had a hard cry the night before, I cant wake up 75% of the time ... Ive got so much to do and I procrastinate...My husband is in a good mood and im bringing him down with my sadness... I feel ugly its hard to get ready...OMG im so sorry for bitching OMG people out there probably have it so much worse... but I guess what Im trying to ask, is does anyone have home remedys or any suggestions for me to help me get thru this, does anyone have the same problems? Ok well hopefully someone read this and can help me this is a hard one but  atleast i wont feel so alone if someone  writes back....thank you sandy

[trying43]

Hi sorry u are going through this.  I agree with one of the posters, try walking or doing some type of exercise 10 minutes a day.(i alternated walking and swimming)  Also as far as home remedies, my OB said along with exercise add some extra calcium supplements, fish oil, and make sure to drink your 6-8 glasses of water.  I had the same problems with my first son and did these things and I noticed improvements in about a week and felts like myself after 3 weeks.  I dont know why the combo of those worked but they did.  If you are still feeling bad, definately talk to your doctor. Good luck to you.

[PamelaBee]

Hello, I'm sorry you are feeling this way.  A few suggestions that may help...soak in epsom salts!  It does wonders for your bloating, and other aches and pains.  I did this during both my pregnancies, it helped tremendously, plus I slept like a log!!

Try to get a daily walk in everyday, even if for 10 minutes, the endorphins released will counteract the "blues" you are feeling!  Drink TONS of water!  This will help heeps with your bloating.

Finally, hormones are killer.  I turned into Satans wife when I was pregnant, I cried at every commercial that had a dog in it, I cried when I brushed my teeth, : )  LOL anyway I cried alot and all the time...I'm also a very "up" and outgoing personality, so I knew the hormones had invaded my body, but not forever.  Just try and do your very best each day, to keep that in perspective, and also to make yourself as comfortable as possible along the way.  Be well!

[shuga1109]

Aw. Im sorry to hear about what you are going through.  Like someone said, why suffer? I use to work with a group of therapists and psychiatrist for many years and there are meds you can take during pregnancy to help alleviate your depression and sadness.  I know people might think I am crazy for suggesting this, but it is now prescribed more for pregnant women than before and some of those meds are so light, it won't harm the baby.  Please talk to your doctor.  I have three children.  I have severe insomnia.  I had it for all three babies and I had to work until my ninth month.  I would have killed someone if I didn't get rest.  I was depressed to the point where i was pulling my hair out because i was getting no sleep.  And I mean that literally.  I was sad all the time.  It helps and the kids are now 16, 12 and 8.  Please keep in mind, you may feel ugly now, but it will all pay off at the end!  There are so many programs that moms and babies can do now after the birth to get back into shape!  Look into it!  And if your partner is in good spirits, enjoy it with him.  I know its hard, because of hormones, but you are one of the luck few that have that support and positive spirit by your side!  God bless.

[Melka76]

It is amazing how quickly your body bounces back after the baby - try not to worry about it until you are there.... Just take care of yourself.. Yes it is hard the last couple of months - I felt ugly, fat and miserable - and I only gained 28lbs total for the pregnancy.  Those feelings do carry into post parturm as you no longer have the baby inside and you are still heavier than your prepregnancy weight.  I would talk to your dr about possible depression - and if you are not wanting to take meds during you can start after the baby is born.  I was exhausted, miserable and procrasitnated as well - now my DD is 3 weeks - I am still tired and finding it hard to do anything but care for her... I just realized this morning I have not showered in two days :) - but I have 2 older kids at home and it is just crazy busy here... but I am in better spirits since she arrived and anytime I get depressed about my appearance I just stare into her eyes and realize it was all worth it... Good Luck and if you need to chat message me....

[sandy201]

thanks for advice,, I know  I will get through this but how am I supposed to handle my newborn if it tkaes atleast a month for it to go away like karendiane said... I cant even hold a phone .. much less type , it hurts to do this but I need all of you as support... Anyway greatful to have medhelp , an dmeet all you wonderful perople

[KarenDiane]

Sandy, you aren't alone. Have you talked to your OB about your depression? I'm currently on anti-depression meds. I know a lot of people won't consider taking meds while pregnant, but you really sound miserable. I do get the tingling in my arms and hands but not as badly as you. Sens me a message if you need to talk.

Karen

[rjoshua]

I had the same problem with my hands in my last 2 months of pregnancy - tingly and numb.  It wasn't painful, just annoying, especially when I would take a bath or touch hot water.  The numbness continued till a month after my dd was born.  Not sure what bought it on, but it did go away in time.

Hope this helps.