Emotional having to tell older children we'er expecting?

[Crazymomma23]

Whats a good way to break it to preteens?  Also when is it good after the first ultrasound or before n have them be involved?

[bunnykissy]

I hope it all goes well, just remember their feelings can change, I know it does for us Adults.  I went from oh no what did I do?  How am I going to do this I have no baby items what so ever and the kids need braces on their teeth to finally being excited about it all.

[Jrob0530]

We waited till after the 20 week anatomy scan then while visiting abuela in Puerto Rico, we told her & the children together. She's 16 and requests a sister, he's 17 and seems to care less but they both had the ahhhhhh moment when they realized why I stopped participating in family activities of ice skating & indoor rock climbing. They really are great children, honor roll students and I've made a huge effort to not make any changes in their routine.

[Crazymomma23]

Thank you that makes since. My son has guested it. As was sick n whitewashed the walls in bathroom. Then today am eating lots of fruit n veggies like crazy... but i javent said yes yet
Im thinking on to wait till tuesday after doctors.

[bunnykissy]

Well with me I told my 10 and almost 13 year old as soon as I found out. My oldest was upset because she will have to move to another room that is smaller.  The plus side is it has a half bathroom and a bigger closet. Downside is its a little smaller space wise and its downstairs. I think she will appreciate it in the end. I also think its good for them to know why I'm not feeling good so they don't worry, it has actually helped. I think they are both starting to help more without me harping on them. My youngest deserves a medal, she has been pretty much been taking care of my parrrot for me, entertaining him while im resting and what not.
Wish you all the best!