Follow up to miscarriage

[cutter1974]

I saw the Fertility specialist yesterday.  I got my results from my last miscarriage in December.
The tests were inconclusive.  The testing showed female carrier and normal chromosomes.  So he thinks they actually grew and tested my cells, not the babys.  Hard to get a proper sample since it was a blighted ovum.
He thinks that there is nothing wrong with me, or our combined genetics.  He thinks it is just bad luck.  I have just been in the percentage, that has a miscarriage.  He thinks we should keep trying and we are bound to get a good egg one of these times.

[jjenkins112]

Don't give up hope. In 3 years of TTC #1 I've had 3 miscarriages and numerous failed infertility treatments. I then turned to Eastern medicine and weekly acupuncture and am now 24 weeks pregnant at age 40 with a healthy baby boy. Keep the faith - you'll get that golden egg!

[cutter1974]

Thanks Adgal.  Last year I felt like giving up. But I feel more hopeful now.  We are going to keep on trying.  I find the first miscarriage was the worst for me. The last was a bit easier. Atleast now I can prepare myself for another one just in case, and hopefully the next pregnancy will be the one that sticks.
I find it has been hard to be able to grieve for my babies. I am a Mortician and have to deal with death and loss on a daily basis. And I work with all the families that lose children, babies and stillbirths.  So I have to stuff my feelings away and be strong for the families.  
But I feel honoured that I am able to assist them in this most difficult time and help them thru thier loss.  

[adgal]

Hi there.  I have received the same news.  With 3 of my losses the tissue has been tested with nothing found.  There are a couple of things I have learned.  During fetal tissue testing, they typically only test for the common issues such as trisonomy 13, 18 and 21.  There are possibilites of less common chromosomnal issues that just aren't caught.  However, even if that is the case, it is just bad luck and not necessarily likely it will happen again.  DH and I had genetic testing as well after our 4th loss and nothing again was found.  We did wind up having a healthy baby after a bit of a long road.  So hang in there...as hard as this is, my RE says that continuing to conceive usually results in a healthy pregnancy.  It's just heartbreaking sometimes getting there.  THinking about you and wishing you well.

[Super_sally888]

Hi,

most likely the fertility doctor is right.  I had at least 3 miscarriages (3 with IUI and 1 natural cycle) before I got pregnant with this little girl on my 6th IUI.  Am now 32 weeks and counting down.

They didn't find anything wrong with me either.  I just had to keep believing there would be a good egg in there.

Best wishes.

Don't give up.