40, ttc after m/c, frustrated

[maryhe]

I've been trying since age 38, am now 40 and have had 2 m/c.  First m/c it took 4 months for AF to resume. The 2nd m/c was 2 months ago and still no period.  I tried this time to stay positive and not worry about it,  but still AF does not come.

My dr. will start me on provera at end of week, but that means at least another month before I could ovulate, IF it works.  She wasn't concerned that this could drag out awhile, but the dr. who did my D&C was adament that I try right away once my period resumed.  He said its good that I conceived easily but that I shouldn't waste time due to my age (sigh).  

Top it all off my DH and I aren't getting along that well right now, so wondering whether having a child is even a good idea.  Geez I wish one had made it.

So essentially everything is frustrating me now -- AF, feeling rushed to ttc, irritating DH.  Can anyone relate and provide any hints on how to deal?  I definitely need to chill out.

[tina1111]

I got pg the 1st time at 40 and mc at 41 in Jan. I just got pg again. It's been 6 mos. My cycles were very irregular until I went on Clomid. The second round at 100mg worked. I also charted, used opks and a monitor.

[azqtpies]

Hello and welcome..


sorry I cant relate to m/c's as I have never had one.. though know of many who have and they seem as I would imagine very heartbreaking =(

Trying to conceive can put strain on a marriage specially with all the ups and downs you have been going through.. hang in there ! everything hopefully will turn around soon for you, have you tryed or maybe get a second RE opinion.. maybe a fresh idea or strategy might be just what you need!

I knew a lady who had tried to  get pg for years she finally stopped trying and worring about it and low and behold she got pg! this was 1 month after adopting a baby girl from alaska.. so it does and will happen but cant let it consume every part of you.... stay positive ! good luck to you.
ssbd to you =)

[nylena]

I'm the same age as you and i definetly can understand the anxiety that comes with it,it's so unfair but that's the way it is..I can also imagine how hard it was with yr m/c s cause i  too lost a baby recently(5 mo pg).I ve been going through some difficult stuff myself but i really think you should start with you.Find what relaxes you and gives you joy and pursue it,anything to keep yr mind busy.Start taking extra-care of yrself-food/sleep/exercise -and maybe you start feeling more positive about things and dh.Talking to people who understand also helps.Is ivf an option for you?I 'm currently having an ivf cycle which i sooo hope it works.And of course it' s great news that you do get pg!Be positive,things do get better!