Starting again

[tinksmagic]

Well, here we go again! It's been just about a year and a half since my m/c with my son and we're starting another cycle. (lots have gone on in our lives preventing us from a sooner try).
Hubby is excited, I'm scared and apprehensive. I can honestly say I went through a bout of depression in this time and feel for everyone who's been down on this path.

I just got our ball rolling with my Day 3 FSH test and away we go!!!!  Mentally and physically I'm in a better place (better job too, which helps!!! ~ no more negative forces surrounding me!).  I will be posing a lot more questions to my dr. this time around as well. We're still doing RPG for twin boys (though I want to have 4 to transfer this time around).  A good friend of mine just did her IVF (2 years older than me, on a different set of drugs went from 2 eggs 4 months ago to 10 this round with 7 embies!!!)  so different drug combos are on my list!!!!

Glad to be a part of this community again after being away for so long. :)  And happy to see everyone from back then doing so well!!!

[tinksmagic]

Thank you everyone!

OK, so 5 months have past since we were trying again, but those 5 months were spent doing another barrage of tests. (all of which fortunately came back normal!).

So, now, we are 2 days away from starting our drugs. Here's where we're at: We're getting more aggressive with the drugs in hopes to get more embryos. We'd love to see around 15, but it's been 2 years and we're older. (I'm 40, hubby is 43). Since a lot has changed, our dr. wants to do a 24 panel test in Michigan on day 3 with a day 5 transfer. He first stated a 24 panel test is great for day 5 embies since they can pull 7 or 8 cells (1 cell on day 3 can be inconclusive as the cell may be corrupt when the embie is actually fine). But now he wants to do day 3. I'm annoyed as he failed to explain that it's $2,000 for 8 embies and $200 each additional. We'd prefer not to possibly spend upwards of $4,000 and test ourselves off the grid due to possibly corrupt cells. I would prefer a 13 panel test since many of the chromosomes even if abnormal, will still produce a healthy child. Thanks to insurance and the clinic screwing us 2 years ago (we wanted gender for boys and still do) but the finance co-ordinator told the insurance company that we only wanted boys and they refused to cover services. Cost us 3 months in payments and waiting. This time we said we just want a healthy child and will decide gender to transfer when it's time. (Of course now, insurance won't cover you in the future if you discard healthy embies for gender, which we did not, ours wouldn't have made it to freeze). Kicker is, if you have a failed cycle and frozen embies, they require you to use the frozen ones first regardless of gender before they'll approve another cycle. Plus they pay for freezing for 1 year.

I'm waiting for them to contact me back. Feeling very annoyed about the whole thing right now. Has anyone had experiences with 24 panels tests? Please share.

[adgal]

Welcome back and glad to see you are not giving up.  I am another who has been in your shoes miscarrying 5 times before having my son January 2010.  I am working on number 2, but have now miscarried twice.  I do understand the depression - I went through that too.  However, I can tell you that I would go through it all again to have that amazing little boy.  SSBD and glad your back!  

[kdubb274]

Good luck and I have been in your shoes. I m/c my daughter in 07 at 5 mos. I was depressed for awhile. I have the best hubby in the world that help me get thru that.