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[mature momma]

Well, here I am heardtbroken again. RE just called with results---BFN. I can't believe it happened again. We were feeling so positive about this time.  This has not gotten the best of me. We decided if it was not a success this time we would take some time off to recover emotionally and financially, maybe  6mths to 1 yr. It will be hard to wait. I have been looking into geting a private policy that covers infertility treatments to help us out next time. At least we have 4 more years we can try using donor eggs. Why does this have to happen to any of us?????? Thanks for all your support.  
Debra

[RunningL8]

I think it is great you're not giving up.  I think my pregnant friend got a special rate from her RE for the donor cycle (having tried four ivf cycles prior to the donor cycle).  Also, are there other REs in your area?  As you may know, sometimes REs offer shared risk plans.  I have heard of two types of plans offered by REs:  1)  you pay for two donor cycles upfront, and this gives you three fresh donor cycles (with three frozen embryo transfers in between each fresh cycle).  If you don't go home with a baby, you get all of your money back.  2)  Or you pay for 1 and 1/2 cycles upfront, and you get one cycle with a shared donor, and then you get all of your money back if you don't have a baby.  Drugs are not included in either program, and of course, they put you through a lot of tests to be sure you're a good candidate.  But I like the idea of a sure thing, even if it costs more.  I'm leaning towards the one cycle try; apparently you can do it over if the first one doesn't work.  My understanding is that REs who offer these programs are super picky about the donors they accept, which might also be good.  I'm still sad this try didn't work for you, but according to my friend, once you actually get pregnant, you don't care about all of the money you spent and all of the hassle you went through.  And certainly it's a great idea to make sure your tube is open and to try on your own in the meantime.  Keep your spirits up!

[Zoe2B]

Hi Debra, I am so sorry to hear the news. I can't imagine how sad and truly frustrated you both must be. Take some time to really pamper yourself. And your dh! The HSG sounds like a great idea. I had one of those, and it's nice to make sure that everything is clear. And if it's not, then you can get that fixed. And who knows, now that you will be taking some time off, keep ttc and you just may get pg on your own! That's what happened to me. I lost the baby at 8 weeks, but at least I got pregnant. You're right, you are still producing eggs, and you have nothing to lose! I can just see you guys getting pg on your own, and the irony of that! There's a great website, healthjourneys.com where I've found CD's that have helped me a lot in this fertility journey. Belleruth Naparstek is the woman whose CDs I particularly like. They are positive affirmations and visualizations, in preparing yourself for pregnancy, as well as getting through the hard times of infertility. Thinking of you,
xxoxox

[shesherm]

Debra, I am so sorry you are going through this yet again.  I would definately go talk to your RE my friend Dr was willing to work them a deal.  but yeah trying anatural in the mean time can work.  good luck
((Sheila))31w3d-bedrest9d

[mature momma]

Can you believe our misfortune. Usually one of the nurses calls with the results but my RE called this time himself. He was so concerned and disappointed in the results as well. He said of course they want a success for everyone but they were really pulling for us to be pregnant. He knows how hard it was for us to pay for 2 cycles ou of pocket. He expressed how disappointed he was that we had none to freeze. He wants us to come and talk to him in about a month about what to do next. I am going to ask him if he would do a third cycle at a lower rate. I've heard of  some RE's doing that. Also found some insurance companies that cover infertility on line. Going to call them next week to see what they can offer. We figure if we wait 6mths to a yr. pay off some of the debt, get ins. that will pay for some and get him to give us a special rate we will try again. Also think in the mean time I will have a hysterosalpingogram to make sure my left and only tube is open. If it is blocked have it repaired or if it is open try natural or maybe with some mild drugs. After all I am still producing eggs and seem to be of ok to good quality so why not try in the mean time, right? We have nothing to lose. As you can tell I am not giving up. Still feeling emotional but desire is pushing me hard harder then ever now. Thanks for being there for me. Thanks to everyone.
Debra

[RunningL8]

Oh Debra, I am so, so sorry to hear this news.  Really, I'm at a loss for words, except to tell you that I came back from shopping and checked this website first thing to see if you had posted an update.  So I am thinking of you.

[mature momma]

I am 46 and married almost 2 years. We have no children as of yet. We have been seeing an RE for almost a year now and have tried infertility drugs for a few months then went to IVF with my eggs and this last try was IVF with donor eggs. We used donor because it was suppose to increase our chances. We are taking a break from all the IVF for awhile so  I am thinking we should try naturally.  Everyone tells me usually thats we you concieve after trying all of the above listed. Thanks for you words. Debra

[belinda31160]

i really feel for you, debra.  this kind of longing can really make the heart sick.  i am new to this forum.  is this your first baby that you are trying for?  what age are you?  i am 47 with an unreliably high fsh and have been trying to conceive naturally for my fourth child.  i had my last child just weeks before my 43rd birthday and i still believe that i have not finished.  i hope you have the baby you are longing for, debra, in the meantime look after your body - a good, nutritional diet and a positive excersise programme - and tend your emotions and relationship. god's speed.