sad going to miscarry so wait or d&c?

[Aggiepa]

Went to the doctor today, should be 9 weeks only measured 6. Miscarriage likely. This was my third pregnancy and it never did feel right. Anyone else just know the pregnancy wasn't viable? I have two girls. I kept trying to tell myself maybe it felt weird because it was a boy. Anyway, sad for the loss but grateful to have two healthy girls and a husband who loves me and is supportive.  Thanks for the purge. Now it's just a waiting game our do I do the D&C? Anyone been through this before?

[mhv]

So sorry for your loss.

[loveof8]

I have had the feeling twice that something was not right and sure enough i m/c and because i don't pass them naturally i book in for a d&c.Only 1 i have m/c naturally.

[soontobemommy_2015]

I am so sorry for your loss. In my opiniom, the best way is to let it pass naturally. It will be better for your health, although ypu might experience some cramps. Best of luck :)

[DaniJezTyson]

I found out at 12weeks my baby hadn't made it past 8weeks. I got offered d&c or tablets to bring on the miscarriage. I spoke to my partner and for me the tablets were the way to go, though I was told the probably wouldn't work, I wanted to miscarry naturally so I could grieve properly. I took the tablets and 5 hours later my miscarriage started. I honestly needed it that way for me, was my first pregnancy. Now I'm 14weeks 3days and our baby is due on our one year anniversary of our miscarriage, to me thats a positive sign..

[GeekMom1213]

I'd wait for a little while. Sometimes the body hangs on because the brain doesn't know something is wrong. Now that you know what's going on your body may let go and allow you to pass the miscarriage naturally. I'm sorry for your loss - it's wonderful that you're staying positive and focusing on your blessings but remember that it is important to allow yourself to grieve for the loss of what could have been.
I've had two losses both at 11 weeks in the last year. One of them I scheduled a d&c right away (I was just a few days away from taking my final nursing school exams and just couldn't imagine waiting and seeing whether I'd start to pass it during a test) and the other one I waited almost a week and started to pass it naturally but had an incomplete miscarriage so I still needed a d&c to remove the remaining tissue that was causing me to hemorrhage (FYI that very rarely happens - and your doc would tell you the signs that mean you need to be seen). Refused anesthesia and conscious sedation for both - did one with a spinal block and the other with just lidocaine injections into the cervix and walked out with minimal recovery time. The procedures were expensive enough without adding on the charges from an anesthesiologist. I wanted to be fully mentally and emotionally present for the procedure - I definitely cried but the pain wasn't so bad.
I hope your experience goes smoothly no matter what you choose to do. Best of luck in your journey.

[LoveCake98]

Im so sorry for your loss.  I waited it out and all passed naturally.  Be aware that you may be monitored for beta/hcg levels for weeks afterward.  My levels took a long while to decrease so many visits to the lab/emotionally trying each time.  I had healthy 40 wk + 4 preg shortly after mc though.  My son is amazing.

[ctberalmu]

I'd say go for d&c. Although my experience was not as good as it can be, I reckon it's safer, quicker, and your body will be back on track earlier too.

[showty]

Wait a few days to see if your body will pass baby naturally. If not contact your doctor for a d&c.
I've had six miscarriages and one was a d&c because baby wouldn't pass. They put you out. Afterwards you'll be a little sore with some bleeding.
Never easy to lose a baby. Good luck and stay positive.

[judybob32]

I had to wait. I had 4 miscarriages.  First one at 14 weeks and the others were 5 to 8 weeks. I am now 16 weeks pregnant thanks to a specialist. I had to wait to pass them naturally. My 1st miscarriage,  I had a d & c as my body would not pass it naturally. The others came out on their own. Good luck to you! I hope it works out!

[bnl0725]

I'm so sorry. I lost one at 13 weeks and had to have a D&C because my body would not pass naturally. They put me to sleep and I had just slight cramping and light bleeding after. It is very heartbreaking to lose a baby. Time does help to heal but you'll never forget.